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Jenasis7776
03-26-2007, 07:46 PM
Ok. I dated this guy on and off for 3 years..the first year was good, but then after that we broke up all the time, he pulled my hair, he was controlling and just verbally abusive to me. We broke up for real in August 2006, and 3 days later he met this girl who was 17, and he is 26. Anyways, he has been dating this girl now for 7 and a half months. In that time, he has cheated on her with me 9 times, lied to her about it, broked up with her twice (once on Christmas Eve) and immediately called me up both of those times and told me how im his fantasy, that he loves me, missed me, etc. and at one point was thinking about getting back together with me. He also pulled her hair, and had many fights. However, there were good times in between from what I have heard. Anyways, about a month ago, her parents kicked her out because she was with him, and she moved in to his apartment with him. I hadn't heard anything from him since then, but Saturday night, he called me up and me, having weakness and curious as what he had to say to me, he came and picked me up. He looked horrible - zits on his face, old ratty clothes...but he complimented me, told me im cool and how he misses certain things about me, etc. he kept calling me baby and honey and madeout with me. his girlfriend kept calling him and texting him begging him to come home, and he just kept hanging up on her and eventually turned off the phone. Anyways, then he wanted to get a hotel room-he spent 80 dollars-and we were only there for 30 min...we madeout and messed around, and we didnt have sex-he got all upset and I asked him what was wrong and he said that it had to do with him, not me or her. we talked and then he brought me home and apologized and told me he is sick of being an jerk and has changed for the better. I am trying to make sense of all this, but it leaves me confused. Why has he wanted to cheat on his girlfriend with me? What do you think of this? Has he changed and could he really be happy now? Any advice or insight would be great!

Penguin_Woman
03-26-2007, 08:01 PM
Welcome to ATLF. I read your post and I'm wondering...why would you want to be with him? He has had sex with a 17 year old. That's statatory ****. You need to stop making out with him and letting him cheat on his gf with you. It takes two to tango. You need to walk away from him completely. He's abusive, he cheats...not the man for you or anyone. You need to end all contact with him IMHO. Good luck to you. Let us know how it goes.

mashmac
03-26-2007, 08:19 PM
No - I don't think he has changed. And frankly I also don't see why you would want to be with him. I don't think you should trust him. You deserve better, don't you respect yourself enough? Do you want to be with someone who one day might go even further than pulling your hair? He really sounds like bad news and the whole thing like a repetitive vicious circle.

Penguin_Woman
03-27-2007, 03:09 PM
I hope you come bacck and update us. We aren't trying to be mean and i know it's not what you want to hear. But if we told you "sure, he can change. Get back with him". We'd really be doing you a great disservice.

aussiecoffee007
03-27-2007, 11:29 PM
i agree, hes not the man for you, or for anyone right now. he cant change unless he wants to, and by his behavior.. he doesnt.