It was a rough night.

[FlaMan]

This was really a rough night and it is now early morning. I am not even sure how I got to this site, just sat down and googled "I am lonely and depressed". I have been divorced two years and have not had a serious relationship as of yet. No...I am not a loser ........ although I feel like one right now. I am a professional, own my own home, and am comfortable. I just do not date because I do not do the bar scene and do not date coworkers. I tried the online thing .... but it seems all the women my age are looking for younger studs ( I am in my early 40's). I was up most of the night laying in bed alone again and feeling that I will never be happy and ... frankly... I am really tired of being alone. I do not even know why I am on this site now or what this will accomplish.

[Penguin_Woman]

Welcome to ATLF. I'm sorry it was under these circumstances. i think you came to the right place. We are like a big family here, trying to encourage and lift each other up. I'm sorry your feeling so lonely. Do you do anything for fun? Maybe if you joined some activity. Then you could meet new people and make some friends or maybe more. Well, I hope we can make you feel less lonely. Welcome again

[mashmac]

Hey FlaMan - I hope you'll come back on. We are all here for a reason and the main one is to comfort each other. And most of us came on board depressed, lonely, most of us now feel a hundred time better because we have shared so many things and stories together that we do not feel alone anymore.

We all want to be loved (except from me who came here so heartbroken and finally healed thanks to my mates here and now I fine this way although my friends here keep on telling me I am nuts!).

And If you really like that lady, even if it's not you scene perhaps you could make an exception to the rule just once and hang out with her? If you have know each other for a while, I don't see why you can't just go out and talk.

And I would hardly say that a 40-something man is old! And as a woman I can tell you we do prefer men with a bit of experience. This of course assuming you yourself are not only interested in 20-year old ladies.

This is a difficult time for you and the worst you can do is be alone. So even if you give up on us here on ATLF - make sure you find another way to express your lonely feelings or else they will pull you down further.

Take care.