They break up but Still in touch!!!!

[agrab]

hello my dears,

I will be in relation with him, BUT...he is still hurt because of his ex cheated him...

Although he says that he is ready, he is till hurt...it has been a few years now separated...

the problem is that he still maintain contact with her...to a minimum yes, but he still reply to her calls...etc and help her when she needs!!!

although he says that he does not love her anymore...I doubt it to be honest although I believe it in the same time!!

what do you think about this situation...messy init?

[agrab]

hello,

I am in love with someone who is seprated from his wife since 4 years now...he does not love her any more (according to him !) but he is still always hurt and in the SAME time: Still keep in touch!!!! with her and help her if needed.

they keep in touch only at a minimum level...BUt they should not I think...

what do you think guys?

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[Penguin_Woman]

Hello and welcome to ATLF. That's a rough situation. What do you think he'd do if you asked him to break off contact with her? I'm thinking that's what he has to do. Remind him that she cheated on him and hurt him. That she is the past and you are the present. If he won't let her go, you may have to rethink whether you want to be with him. Good luck. Let us know how it goes

[Penguin_Woman]

I merged your threads. You only need to ask once, the way this place is laid out everyone will see it. Just an FYI

[EC]

It's his choice, it's his life, if you already talked to him and he's willing to meet you half way then I think you should leave him alone.

I know it bothers you, it bothers most of us but if you're on his back about it all the time it shows how much you (don't) trust him.

Why is it that we all have to ask someone we claim to love to be different just so we can be happy? Appreciate them for who they are and what they do, if they take advantages and hurt you then they are not worth it, having said that, not that we are all perfect and don't make mistakes.

Maybe if you leave it for a while and think positively, he might see the difference and make an effort volunteerily for you.