Older woman, younger man

[sdlizard71]

I need some advice... I was texting a friend the other night (we know each other very little) and one thing led to another and he ended up coming over for sex. I am 36, he is 24. A lot of guys, including him, are usually under the impression that an older woman is more experienced. I am, although I'm still a little shy. I am not in the habit of inviting someone over for sex. It started a little awkward, then it heated up, we started to have sex, then he got too hot and had to stop. We ended up talking for a while and then we finally finished the "deed". Before he left, he said he was leaving me the last condom, but I don't know if that meant he would come back or if he had no intention to. I am like a female Chandler (from the show "Friends"). When he got to my house, there was no small talk, he came up to me and I (out loud) said, "Here we go" like a complete dork. I was just nervous. Anyway, my question is this: I want to continue as "friends with benefits", but I feel like maybe I was dorky and awkward and he won't want to come back, even for free sex, no strings attached. Am I stressing too much about this? I don't want a relationship with him. I'm stressing because what does that say about me if he doesn't want to come back? I texted him after he left hinting that we should do it again sometime, but I haven't heard from him since.

[Penguin_Woman]

Welcome to ATLF sdlizard. Glad you could join us. I'm no expert on the FWB thing, but I imagine he'll return again if he left a condom. Just some guys just want the benefits part without the friends part. He'll probably contact you next time he wants sex. Good luck. :)

[Penguin_Woman]

I'd like to add I don't think you acted dorky. It was an awkward situation. You did the best you could. Though will it be enough for you if he only calls when he wants sex?

[sdlizard71]

I've thought about it and I feel that, at this point in my life, I can have "just sex" with him. He's actually the only person that I have ever felt that I could do that with and not have feelings. I think it's because I am realistic in knowing that he is so much younger and is not going to be ready anytime soon to settle down. I am ready to settle down, but I don't date often and I have gone almost 2 yrs without sex. Until I meet someone to settle down with, I have no problem having my sexual needs met by someone I feel comfortable with. I do know that since he's been over, I want it even more. That's why I hope I didn't ruin it for myself.

[Penguin_Woman]

Well, if your happy with that than cool. Guys are odd sometimes (sorry guys ;) ) . When you ask wy they've not responded they might answer all distracted.."Oh, I was busy". If he doesn't get back to you within....say a week or so. He may not be returning. If so, don't blame yourself. It's just one of those things.

[mashmac]

I think at the time he wanted to have sex with you as much as you did. And no strings attached. And I agree with Tuxette, you acted normal. Guess as you have nothing to lose and want to keep it casual nothing prevents you from calling him and saying something like I had a nice time, you want to get together again? No point beating around the bush.I am repeating myself but you don't have nothing to lose. It's all very easy.