shy n confused!

[rihabhatia]

few days back i was with my friends in his car.we knew eachother but met for teh first time. he is smart n handsome & married. i'm married too.he is related to my brothers wife. we used to chat with each other. once i was in his town n decided to meet.
we went for dinner. we were sightly drunk.then he was dropping me home. i was not feelig okey coz i was drunk.so he stopped his car at one place to chat. then he hold my hand and started massaging my hand and middle finger... :confused: and then he started massaging my neck... :confused: he was also staring at me. i was scared but behaved as if whatever was happeneing was normal.

but i'm confused that he wanted to ve sex with me r he was just realxing me? pz help. i just can't come out of it.
PLZZZZ HELP. i cant talk about this to neone. so m here to take some advice from u all. thanks

[EC]

From a man's point of view that wasn't normal, especially when both of you are married. Correct me if I am wrong but from the tone of your post, it seems as if you are quite excited / interested about this.

Weight it, is your marriage worth being abandoned for something like this? This is going to last if you choose to comply when he takes it further? It sounds wonderful and all, but if, and only if he meant it in a sexual or I-want-you way, you'll end up cheating, worse of all, end up with a cheater. Can you live with that? Live with him?

All these are my presumption, if he does it again, talk to him about it.

[rihabhatia]

From a man's point of view that wasn't normal, especially when both of you are married. Correct me if I am wrong but from the tone of your post, it seems as if you are quite excited / interested about this.

Weight it, is your marriage worth being abandoned for something like this? This is going to last if you choose to comply when he takes it further? It sounds wonderful and all, but if, and only if he meant it in a sexual or I-want-you way, you'll end up cheating, worse of all, end up with a cheater. Can you live with that? Live with him?

All these are my presumption, if he does it again, talk to him about it.

see.. i'm not excited or somthing. but reall not feeling good about it. i meet my friends whenever i go to my town n never ever suh thing has happened to me. i ve friends who r really smart but ve never tried to do such things. so i'm confused that, what he really wanted was this? he is alwasy so good n decent when we chat. maybe, this has happened for teh first time with me, thats y i'm here to share n know what it excatly ment. myhubby knows whomall i meet. who all r my friends and want all i did... but this is something i just cannot discuss or tell him[:(]

[Penguin_Woman]

Hello and welcome to ATLF. No, I don't imagine that is a "normal" thing to do. I think he was coming on to you. I would try to stay away from any situations where your alone with me. It may have been a one-time thing. It MIGHT have even been fairly innocent. But just to be sure I'd try not to be alone with him. If you end up alone again and he tries something just ask him nicely not to. Tell him you don't want to jeoperdize either marriage like that.

[rihabhatia]

Hello and welcome to ATLF. No, I don't imagine that is a "normal" thing to do. I think he was coming on to you. I would try to stay away from any situations where your alone with me. It may have been a one-time thing. It MIGHT have even been fairly innocent. But just to be sure I'd try not to be alone with him. If you end up alone again and he tries something just ask him nicely not to. Tell him you don't want to jeoperdize either marriage like that.

thanks for the welcome. i know... i should avoid being alone with him.... i'll be goin back to his town after 3 moths. and he has asked me to meet him from now iself! and since he is related to my bros wife, i'm scared that he might tell them as no 1 knows that we met.[:(].
but i think he won't blackmail me but i'm still scared...

[EC]

Don't worry about being blackmailed, if he's going to blackmail you that you've went out to meet him once, and you with him again, he has even more stuff to blackmail you about. Take active steps to remove yourself from the situation.

[mashmac]

Fear... I you allow him to force you seeing him because of fear things will only get worst. He was definitely making a move. And the level of alcohol encouraged him to do so. I think you should tell him you are not available. Make some other plans. He might not be a mean person and if he is you friend perhaps you can even consider telling him that what happened last time made you uncomfortable as it sounds like you know each other quite well. Is that an option?