Been dumped but she still wanna to keep in touch

[tycoon]

Hi guy just wanna ask u all for some advice..well i broke off about a week ago..well the problem is she still want to keep in touch with me and still called our me by the special name that we used to have.But the i tried ask her why she still me by that name...she response that u will always be my boy friend no matter what. So guys i'm kinda clueless on what should do in this situation,should continue keep in touch with her or just let her go...deep inside my heart i do want her back...plz can u guys help me

[Penguin_Woman]

First off, welcome to ATLF. I'm sorry it's under these circumstances. So...she broke it off with you? Has she given any real solid indications that she'd like you back? If not...I think she just cares about you still and wants to keep you in her life. i know how that is exactly. really, it's up to you whether you stay in contact. Can you handle being JUST her friend. If you stay in contact do it only on the assumption you'll never be more than friends. Knowing that...can you handle that? Or will you always be looking to get back together with her? If you can't stay in contact with her and not want her back, I say back off for now. Tell her what....someone special once told me. "I don't want to be your friend. I want to be your boyfriend." I know it'll hurt, but it may hurt more to stay in touch. Good luck, keep us updated

[aussiecoffee007]

if you dont have a problem with staying in touch i would, but not often as to not send her mixed messages... and with the nickname and stuff, say, dont call me that anymore, we arent together anymore. (adjust niceness as needed :) ) but she needs to have a clear idea on what you two are, if you catch my drift.

[summit]

if you wanna know if she has relationship feelings for you still, then simple, date another girl for a couple innocent dates, and guage her reaction, if shes jelous, she wants you back, if shes supportive, she wants to be your friend only, and you need to deal with it. I find some women like to keep there exs around in that grey zone between boyfriend and friend, just for insurance purposes, could be something like this.

[EC]

From the sound of your post, you were the one that broke it off with her. Bear in mind that if you don't want to burn the bridge just yet, she might feel resentful later on when you're about come back to her. Seen it a few times, coming back to late kind of situations.

Let her call you what she wants, you know what you want and what you can give her. There's no point telling you girlfriend to stop doing this and that, IF you do not want to reconcile, why hurt the other person even more? Let her come to terms at her own pace.

At the same times, this leave room for you to reconcile, as you won't be acting nasty and controlling all of a sudden :)

[joehash]

Wow, that sounds like she's having a really hard time getting over you. I'd be careful about staying friends with her. It seems like she needs time apart from you (despite what she may think).

[Penguin_Woman]

Ya know...I don't think they are going to return :D