Hey girls explain this... [Archive] - Relationship, Dating Forums, Advice on Love

byrdgang

03-17-2007, 05:32 PM

I have a muscular build and guys tell me I have a nice face (no **** I don't get down like that), but whenever I see females staring at me they quickly look away when I catch them looking :confused: . I thought if they found you attractive they were supposed to hold eye contact, and I don't know whether I should approach them or not because I am thinking maybe they are not interested and that is why they don't want me to know they were looking at me.

Can someone explain this strange phenomenon to me? Thanks:)

Penguin_Woman

03-17-2007, 05:53 PM

Hi there and welcome to ATLF. My guess would be they are shy and are not wanting to be caught looking at you. But if it happens several times it means they want you to come over and talk to them.

byrdgang

03-17-2007, 06:13 PM

Hi there and welcome to ATLF. My guess would be they are shy and are not wanting to be caught looking at you. But if it happens several times it means they want you to come over and talk to them.

Yeah that is what I don't get. If they don't want to get caught how would they expect me to know they are interested in me? I sometimes get the feeling perhaps I have some weird feature about me that they get embarassed about gawking at :eek: !!

Penguin_Woman

03-17-2007, 07:07 PM

I've never said women make sense. We often seem to expect men to be mind readers. They are too shy to make eye contact but yet (some) are secretly hoping you will catch them looking and come over. Just beware if she's flanked by several other female friends. From what I hear (I wouldn't know for sure...I don't really have a lot of female friends) they can make it difficult on a guy to approach just one. The best thing is to try to make friends with the other girls first. For some women having their friends approval is very important to them.

aussiecoffee007

03-17-2007, 10:51 PM

We want to subtly let you know were interested but were not going to be the man and then come over and talk to you. If you see and are interested, we leave the door open to you. We want you notice us, look at us to see if we were indeed looking at you, and then it gets all that attention :)

mashmac

03-18-2007, 08:13 PM

We kind of feel shy and don't want to be caught obviously looking at you so we are trying to check you out discreetly. And yes as Tuxette says we might point you out to whomever we are with and see what they have to say. And after a while of that game I guess we will smile at you and look into your eyes and then I guess we somehow expect you to probably make a move....

Tuxie

03-18-2007, 09:25 PM

:heeeelllllooooo: <---- Me, the first time I saw Tuxette.

pika

03-19-2007, 12:50 AM

Ladies have funny theories and moves.....i always comment my friend's dressing very pretty etc.....
They will always give you the "quit joking" stare, but deep inside them, they are so happy.....:p

03-19-2007, 10:18 AM

byrdgang, correct me if I am wrong, but you're asking what you already have an answer to.

But yeah, some more insight is always helpful. Agree with Aussiecoffee on what she said, but when a woman really wants a man she likes, there's nothing that's gonna be able to stop her.

You can't possibly expect all those women to come on to you first.

byrdgang

04-07-2007, 12:51 AM

thanks for the replies guys!

pika

04-13-2007, 09:13 AM

There is a saying in chinese "girls chasing after guys is only block by a piece of paper, while guys chasing girls is block by a mountain" it shows the difficulty level here

aussiecoffee007

04-13-2007, 03:37 PM

pika, i dont quite understand the english of that saying, but I'd like to understand it... can you further explain? :redface:

pika

04-15-2007, 03:53 AM

pika, i dont quite understand the english of that saying, but I'd like to understand it... can you further explain? :redface:

Well i sort of direct translate that....

Its sort of a phrase in chinese saying....the difficulties behind a boy chasing a girl and vice versa....

When a girl chase after a guy, it is seperated by just a thin veil, when a girl makes the first move....its just like lifting the veil, easy. But for a guy to chase a girl, its like we are seperated by a mountain that we need to climb and overcome the different difficulties....

Part of it seems to be true...but in actual facts.....not all guys are easy to be pursue as well right? girls do face rejections.....

hope im abit clear here

aussiecoffee007

04-15-2007, 05:20 PM

so is that saying to say that its harder for a guy to chase a girl? its easier for the girls to go after the guys?

pika

04-16-2007, 12:05 AM

Yes....:) it would means that its easier for a girl to approach a guy then a guy approach a girl....

but isnt it true?

aussiecoffee007

04-16-2007, 04:10 AM

not really, ive always found it easier to be approached than to do the approaching, because then i feel like im being too forward or strong and its a turn-off...

Taryn

04-18-2007, 04:52 AM

pika

04-18-2007, 08:43 AM

girls like to break eye contact with guys because they are either too shy, or they are simply flirting with you.

plus, whoever said the guys have to ask. i like to pick my men, not have them select me :)

is that you in your avatar??? if a girl approach a guy...out of 10 at least 9 will be friendly...but for a guy to approach a girl...it is like 9 out of 10 will be defensive

Taryn

04-18-2007, 08:45 AM

of course thats me silly!

plus, what makes you think guys have a lower chance of meeting a friendly girl? it's all about technique. chances are, the girl doesnt like your style

pika

04-18-2007, 08:59 AM

of course thats me silly!

plus, what makes you think guys have a lower chance of meeting a friendly girl? it's all about technique. chances are, the girl doesnt like your style

haha....well you are a babe, thats why you get to choose the men you want to meet.....

I am just average looking....yeah i have my ways too :):p

Taryn

04-18-2007, 09:53 AM

thanks for the sweet compliment pika :smile:

i would go for personality over looks. a face will change over time. good personality will last with you forever

pika

04-19-2007, 02:48 AM

thanks for the sweet compliment pika :smile:

i would go for personality over looks. a face will change over time. good personality will last with you forever

Taryn,

i welcome u into this forum....and i m glad u r here....u sound fun and interesting!!!!

another sophisticated member....:o

eaglebaseball

11-17-2007, 05:45 AM

haha....well you are a babe, thats why you get to choose the men you want to meet.....

I am just average looking....yeah i have my ways too :):p

lol, beat me to it.

I don't have that option of choosing. I just have to hope. lol

oops, just realized how old this thread is. lol. its late, and I have no idea how I got to this thread.

~Teej~

11-17-2007, 09:12 PM

Hmm no matter Eagle I do things like that as well sometimes :)

TreeofSephri

11-18-2007, 03:02 AM

Yea, women are silly like that. They will use subtle hints to show interest. We are all annoyed by it ,and I don't think women will change anytime soon.