For men

[mashmac]

TO MEN;

You always tell us you like strong women but eventually somehow it seems you end up with the less strong one, the one that needs more looking after. Do strong women scare you? Why?

[EC]

Depends what you meant by 'strong', I am guessing it's emotionally strong, independent and or responsible women you're talking about.

In theory its all wonderful having a women that's independent, on the other hand having someone who is capable of showing that they care and need us is somewhat, more preferable in a way.

Having someone that is independent to a point where us men feel that these women never need us for anything is not totally what we want. We want someone we can look after, take care off, make them feel better when they are feeling down, talk to us about issues and problem, etc. Basic human needs to be wanted, needed, desired.

Again depends in what sense 'strong' means to you. It's too broad and I only picked a random example.

[Tuxie]

Speaking for me (I realize different people see this differently), I get a certain satisfaction in having my SO rely on me... lean on me, so to speak. I dunno if it's something inbred or not. I'm at my happiest when I'm helping her.

As to why I don't like 'strong women'... I hate it when they beat me at arm wrasslin'! :eek:

[aussiecoffee007]

im a strong woman (emotionally not physically tuxie :) ) but all of my guys dont really have a problem with it. im usually the one whos like, im sick of being the man in this, and they can step up or not, whatever. but the guys who dont want a relationship because im strong stay my closest friends, other than that ive never really had a problem with that...

[mashmac]

Guess I am like Aussie and from what Tuxie and EC are saying - I see I am right:
strong women scare men. I guess men like the feeling of being somehow in control.

[Tuxie]

Whoa, whoa, and finally.... whoa.

There's a difference between being in control and wanting to feel 'needed'. The term 'in control' sounds as if we men are overbearing with the power thing. Granted, I realize there are some men like this. But I am not one of them. I like to look at a relationship as being 'helpers' and 'encouragers', rather than being 'in control'. :)

[EC]

Amazing! Mashmac, I thought I was fairly straight forward, doesn't have anything to do with being in control. Maybe you want to read our posts again.