which is easier?which is better?

[potatoes]

what is the best option -
a) To keep waiting and trying to win your ex-love back (when you cheated)
b) To suffer the pain of heartaches, tears and constant mental reminders for maybe 6months or 1year or 2years or eternity?

...comes down to, what is the best option for us to move on? Just because we did something wrong, doesn't mean we have to be crucified for it.but, wouldn't it be great to even get a peek at our future should we decided the road we want to take.what would your option be? is there an option c?

[aussiecoffee007]

i think it takes two to tango. if he doesnt want you back anymore... i mean, if you cheated, he is probably very very hurt and in that case he might not just not have the emotional capacity anymore... in that case, i think its best to try to move on from him too, despite the emotional reminders... if you give into those, you can never truly get over this or him.

[Penguin_Woman]

I would tend to agree. This may not be the time to try to win him back. He's probably very hurt right now. I think it would be best for you to try to get on with your life right now. Maybe later you can try again with him.

[mashmac]

I guess you have to tell him that you love him and ask him if feels anything for you. And if he does feel something, can you just try and work on it it slowly.

But if he has really exited the scene, doesn't want to talk to you, tells you it's over - then you have to leave him alone because you are only going to make him pull further away.
What is he saying to you?

No, you shouldn't be crucified. Live is not black and white and you shouldn't hate yourself. And you can't change what you've done. You can only promise him to love him and if he finds it in his heart to forgive you then your relationship will be much stronger.

Pain you can not avoid now for you or him. In both cases.
This are all very difficult issues emotionally. You will need a lot of courage and energy to cope so be ready for it.