How do you know

[mashmac]

How do you know a relationship is over? What is it that makes you take that fatal step? Divorce?

[aussiecoffee007]

i know its over when i spend more time being unhappy than happy with the person, if i feel as if im trapped and cant get out, or if i am unsure of our love anymore...

[Tuxie]

There are two reasons I know a relationship is over: 1) Either people involved lose their passion for the other. 2) The situation is pretty much stagnant... no growth.

As for my divorce, it was because my mate was so disgusted with me and my lifestyle (Affair).

[mashmac]

So aussie - what do you do? how do you tell them?

[aussiecoffee007]

well, i told my last one by just saying that we were spending more time fighting and being hurt by each other, and it was better to just end it now so that we would stop hurting each other... it was better in the end... then i just started detaching, it was hard as **** first and id like to say time heals it all but it doesnt. friends, talking, moving on do... time not so much. it still can hurt. but its better, and you have to know that before you decide to end it...

[jimbo666]

ouch! that makes my heart sink every time i hear a marriage or love fail...i would never give up but i wouldnt know what its like so i guess i cant say. i'm sorry to hear a question like that. i wish u the best and i hope u find the love of ur life...

[Tuxie]

*hug to aussiecoffee*.... I'm in a very huggie mood :rolleyes:

[aussiecoffee007]

huggie moods are always good... especially when we need them :) but its okay now, see mashmac, ive moved on and now im with someone that... is a much better relation for me anyway, hes an amazing guy, and now at least i can be friends with the ex. so i suppose, if its for the best, it will work out... i believe that all things work out in the end, and if they arent worked out yet, its not the end.

[EC]

Jimbo, we all would love to try, but clapping with one hand makes no noises. Don't know how many more times we all have to tell you before you get the point, walk with your chin up.

[jimbo666]

and how am i suppose to do that exactly??? my emotions and feelings cant be turned on and off like a switch....u can say that all u want its not that easy...i'm trying!

[mashmac]

And keep on trying Jimbo, we all have it in us to win the battle of us.
Basic human instinct. :333:

And stop with the drinking please.

[EC]

Mashmac, I wouldn't say it's fatal step, for many, it might just be the only thing that can save them.

Jimbo, just want you to know, somehow you reminded me of the person I used to be. I woke up, I realised, I worked on myself, I've evolved and grown.

[mashmac]

Save them from what? Bring them to what? It doesn't make any sense.

[skatermom]

I knew my marriage was over when I asked myself the question: "Do I see myself with him in 10 years?" And I said "no".