Friends..but

[kym]

My boyfreind and I of 8 yrs have recently broken up ..It was a joint decision. We just lost each other along the way. I stopped being there for him abnd he was telling me he felt neglected but I did not listen until it was too late. We both cried at the end. We talked everyday but it is strictly friendship. He has a new girlfriend who is now pregnant and it really hurts she has 2 children by two different fathers and he will make the 3rd father. She is married but promising to get divorced next month...He is a stand up guy first child and all. I aksed him does he feel obligated to her he says yes. then he says what I am supposed to do abandon them and yes he actually used the word abandon like he has considered it. I thinks he trapped him. I know he has a part too but this is all way to weird. He says he slept with her because he was hurting but did not expect this. I asked did he want us to work he says yes but he does not see how now. He says he can't come back right now. I asked him was he happy with her He says not like he wants to be. I asked him does he miss me he says yes at times. What I am to do? Should I let go .. We got along so well never fought or argued he is a really great boyfriend and friend to his love interest which was me but now is someone else. any advice is welcomed

[Tuxgal]

Quite the situation. I'll have to think on it before answering. But I wanted to welcome you to ATLF. We're glad you could join us.

[Tuxgal]

Ok...I've thought about this some more. I know you really want to be with him again. it does seem like that other relationship won't work. But, that's up to him. I think the best thing you can do right now is be there for him and be his friend. Don't tell him to leave her, don't tell him to stay...just stay out of it and let him figure things out for himself. I've been in a somewhat similar situation before. As much as I wanted to be with him, I knew I had to wait and let things work out as they will. I knew I risked losing him forever, but I waited patiently. I lucked out, he chose me and we are together still. Hopefully things will work out for you too. Good luck. Let us know how it goes.

[jimbo666]

hi! thats really sad i'm sorry. you two were together for 8 years! i dunno but to me i really think both of you should start talking and try to get back together. if you lasted 8 years then there was something special both of you just need to put forth more effort. he got a girl pregnant...that sucks but that doesnt mean you two can't be together. like you said he's gonna be the third father so most likely it wont work out with them anyway. i wish i knew what to say i just hate to see you two lose each other after being with each other for so long. i really hope both of you will try and get back together i'd hate to see you two not. you sound like you really miss him but maybe i'm wrong. thats just my opinion i hope it helped in some way.