Dating?

[golfergirl]

Hi

First time posting. Here's my story. This guy I've known for a long time (over 13 yrs) asked me out. At the end of the night, he grab my hand. I texted him the next day to thank him and the he called me to go out again. We've been very affectionate the 2 nights that we have gone out. I really like this guy and don't want to blow it. Eventhough we have known each other for over 13 yrs, this is the 1st time we have hung out.

We both have agreed that we aren't really dating, however, we are still in the beginning stages of getting to know one another. So my question is, when do we know if we are "dating". Do we go out several more dates and do I just ask him "are we dating" or what? I don't want to scare him off either.

We are both in our late 30's. Thanks for listening.

[Tony]

welcome to the ATLF :hello:
nice to have you with us. :)

I would have a talk with him to see where you both see yourselves going
I would also say the times you have been out sound like dates to me. :thumb:

just take things slowly with him be yourself and don't worry about scaring him off
you have known each other for 13 years so I don't think there is much of a chance that you will scare him off.

just be yourself relax and enjoy and communication will go a long way.:)

[stoner]

Here is my definition of it ... (this is only my .02 cents about the subject matter)

If your "going out" or "doing stuff" together is for the purpose of both of you to have a good time, while getting to know each other well, then you're still in the dating stage of things. Yes, even if the so-called good time ended up doing stuff behind closed doors.

In my case, once a person has kissed me on the lip, I should start thinking differently - as this might be the beginning of a serious relationship.

Both parties agreeing - once both parties say those three words to each other; held each other close like there's no tomorrow; accompanied with the promise/commitment that he/she will be the best thing that ever happened to his/her life; and that no one else matters in their lives but each other - then the pair are officially going steady.

Just go with the flow, and don't rush on things. When the right time comes, you will know. Unfortunately, only the both of you will know the answer to your query, when you two are officially a couple or not.

Good luck.

[Pink]

I agree with stoner. Just go with the flow of things. I would just take things slow and continue to get to know each other on a personal level.

[**Sapphire**]

Welcome to ATLF golfergirl, glad that you joined us here! :)

I agree, just be yourself, go with the flow, enjoy the times you get to spend together. Myself, you 2 are dating each other as you are going out one on one & sharing little intimate things, even if it's just holding hands. That's more than what many friends would do going out one on one together.

I would give it a little bit longer & then have a talk with him, see where his feelings go & where you both think things are going.