The DO's and DONT's in Relationship

[EC]

Just like to know what you feel about the DO's and DONT's in relationships. Things you feel strongly about and things you've learned from your past experience.

Give some explanations if need be, feel free to discuss any DO's and DONT's others posted.

I'll start with one:

1) Somethings are better not said. When in moments that you feel strongly about something and wanting to express it to your other half. Whether it's something lovely, your heartfelt feelings, during very small or heated arguments. T H I N K before you say it ladies and gents, think about what your other half will think when he / she hears it. Imagine yourself hearing what you're about to say, this is especially important when you're trying to fix your relationship.

[mashmac]

Taking the fifth on this one - I am really bad at relationships as we know! A complete disaster.

[summit]

tell her shes beautiful and remind her of it every day

tell her i love you every night before going to bed

never go to bed angry or fighting

[Penguin_Woman]

1) Somethings are better not said. When in moments that you feel strongly about something and wanting to express it to your other half. Whether it's something lovely, your heartfelt feelings, during very small or heated arguments. T H I N K before you say it ladies and gents, think about what your other half will think when he / she hears it. Imagine yourself hearing what you're about to say, this is especially important when you're trying to fix your relationship.
I'd agree....but not if it's positive. Well, actually maybe even then. With some guys (not Tuxie of course) something they think is a compliment can come out a very different way. lol So yeah...thinking before speaking is a good idea. Summit had good ideas too. I'd add to that don't bring up the past. The past should remain that way. Women especially are often guilty of this. Some will continue to bring things up from years ago. Do set aside time in the day to talk and do something special with the one you love, everyday.

[EC]

Thanks Summit, I am sure when you said "remind her everyday" is not just by words, what else do you do?

Tuxette, talk and do something special? Such as? I'd appreciate the fine details.

[summit]

no its not just words, although it suprises me how little it is said nowadays, I mean how much effort does it take to say 3 little words everyday?

Anyways for me just little things I do, if she just cleaned the house, I will make double sure to clean up after myself, or wipe the kitchen counter down if I make a mess, it shows you appreciate what she did, also put the toilet seat down! you have no idea how much this means to a women, again, its just showing you are thinking about her, and her feelings.

Pick a flower for her on the way home, stop to pick up her favorite treat and suprise her, find a book of poems and find some that mean something to you, or write one yourself, and recite it to her when she wakes up, cook her dinner, giver her a foot massage, basically aknowledge her, and her role in your life, and show appreciation, she will follow. All these little things require little thought, and not much time, but in my opinion mean the world to her

[Penguin_Woman]

Thanks Summit, I am sure when you said "remind her everyday" is not just by words, what else do you do?

Tuxette, talk and do something special? Such as? I'd appreciate the fine details. Sorry, EC. By talk I mean sit down talk, ask about their day how they feel...what they think about current events. Things like that. As far as things to do together. That can range from watching tv or a movie together, to maybe sharing a book, playing a game...or just being together.

[anon09011105010]

NEVER CONFUSE A GIRL, they dont like to be confused
and never do something she has asked you not to do
dont say that other girls are hot in front of her
dont ever leave her on her own
dont try for sex every time you meet

do tell her you love her everyday
do spend time just talking to her
do make her feel LIKE THE MOST SPECIAL GIRL IN THE WORLD!

in summary, treat her like a princess, and you will become her prince...

[EC]

To be honest I don't believe your 'princess' strategy. Many women appreciates the fact that men recognise that they have their own two feet to stand on.

[Penguin_Woman]

I'd like to add: Never assume anything. If you've questions/concerns talk to your partner instead of just assuming. If someone does say something that bothers you or hurts you...tell them right away (well as soon as you can speak calmly) instead of just holding it inside. Plus...always remember love is not just a feeling, it's a choice. one you make everyday

[Tuxie]

To be honest I don't believe your 'princess' strategy. Many women appreciates the fact that men recognise that they have their own two feet to stand on.
Nah... I don't think just because you make them feel special, or like a 'princess', they should feel any less able to stand on their own two feet. Depends on how you do it I suppose. Let's keep in mind that everyone is different also.

[summit]

I have to somewhat agree with EC on this, something that really did not make sense to me in this regard, is this truly what most women believe? I was kind of curious myself

NEVER CONFUSE A GIRL, they dont like to be confused

I have never heard that men confuse women on purpose? Maybe the other way around? :D I think I can speak for most men when we say its not on purpose


and never do something she has asked you not to do

Ok this is just borderline being whipped, I am not a pet, I am a human being, what if she does not want me to eat red meat which I have been asked before, does this make me a bad boyfriend because I eat meat when she asked that I dont? at what point do you draw the line, do you expect us to follow your every word?

dont say that other girls are hot in front of her

Ok this I can understand if you just blurt out about good looking women walking down the street, but its the age old question, if your significant other asks you if she is hot, would you like the truth or something to make you feel good? Why ask if the answer is gonna screw us either way?

dont ever leave her on her own

I don't even really have much a response to this one :confused: , but apart from mental problems in which they have anxiety issues over large crowds or new people, do you really expect to be arm in arm all night long for every event you go to for the rest of your life? You need some sort of seperation at some point I would think, clingy comes to mind.

dont try for sex every time you meet

I can agree with this one to some degree if its all the relationship has going for it, but does it also not make you feel wanted? desired? If you have a healthy relationship I dont think there is much wrong with being a horny guy :D

do tell her you love her everyday
do spend time just talking to her
do make her feel LIKE THE MOST SPECIAL GIRL IN THE WORLD!

I can fully support the last 3, but I would really like to get some more female takes on the other ones.

I believe in making a women feel special, ofcourse, and making her feel loved and secure, but to follow the above, I would feel completely walked on and sub servant. Just in my humbe opinion anyways

[Penguin_Woman]

NEVER CONFUSE A GIRL, they dont like to be confused
I too don't imagine they would do that on purpose. I agree Women are more confusing

Never do something she has asked you not to do
Well, I agree as far as sexually...not forcing her to do something she's not comfortable with

Dont say that other girls are hot in front of her
I'd agree for the most part. Though it doesn't bug me as much if it's on tv

Dont ever leave her on her own
Well, I love spending time with Tuxie. But I realize he's things to do sometimes. We can't be together 24/7.

Dont try for sex every time you meet
Well, early on....no. But Tuxie needn't try with me lol

Do tell her you love her everyday
I agree!!!

Do spend time just talking to her
Of course!

Do make her feel LIKE THE MOST SPECIAL GIRL IN THE WORLD!
Very much so!

In summary, treat her like a princess, and you will become her prince
I would agree. Tuxie makes me feel like that. He opens doors for me and is a gentleman. He's also very encourging and tries to help me help myself