dutchdiosa
08-24-2008, 09:52 PM
Alright well, this is not really Breaking Up forum material anymore, but this is Broken Heart Forum material. Well...I guess it is. So here goes the story.
My fiancée (I have decided now to still call him that due to the situation you will read), Omar is still in Pakistan sadly. His brother came back on the 22nd of this month and he has spoken to me on the phone twice. The first time I spoke with him was the day he arrived back to America, which surprisingly his Mother did not come back with him yet, odd. So, we spoke for a brief period of time, and then on the 23rd he sent me a message on Facebook asking me to call him. So I called him and we talked for a while, and it really didn’t get me any answers except answers that just blew my mind. It turns out that basically Omar is being held “hostage.” I presume that is the nicest way to say that his parents ******* kidnapped him. Excuse my language but this stuff pisses me off to a level most people would not understand. His brother was telling me that I should try to move on because it will never work and the reason why it will never work is not because Omar doesn’t want to, but because he is not coming back to America. So I said to his brother, “Well, Omar has a plane ticket, so there STILL is the chance that he is coming back. I would be a complete hypocrite and ******* if I just ditched on your brother.” So Asim (Omar’s brother) replied, “Yes, he has a ticket, but that doesn’t mean he will use it, or that my parents will let him come back.” So I plainly replied that there is still hope, and I didn’t care what he thought, but I was not going to give up on someone who was STOLEN away. So his brother and I spoke for some time and his brother admitted that if Omar does come back that I will be most likely the first person that Omar contacts. This made me smile. :smile: Corny I know. :eek: To continue on, for now I digress, well there is still that hope and I find it ****** up that his parents are keeping him there HOSTAGE. What kinds of parents do that? I know the whole culture thing, so please…no one mention that, but in general as a PARENT no matter what culture…how socially and mentally screwed up are you?
His brother went on to tell me that his brother has a job at his Uncle’s company however; Omar is not allowed to work at the office. Omar lives in Lahore and the company is in Islamabad (4 hours away). Omar’s MOTHER said she did not want him working in an office of out of her sight because she knew that he would continue talking to me and she would not stand for it. So now, Omar has to work from home, with motherly supervision, with the internet. Not really a good thing for someone when they want to actually start their career, but who am I to say anything apparently. Upon further discussion Asim and I continued talking and Asim admitted that his brother hated Pakistan and did not want to be there, but his parents well…we know that answer. So, I told his brother that he better be careful because once Omar gets enough money of his own he is just going to peace out and his family will NEVER see him again. Asim agreed and said that was a huge fear of his. Well, so that pretty much concludes our discussion.
What I also found out is that Omar and Asim’s mother spoke to a mutual friend that Asim and I have and told her that she was not allowed to talk to me. Mind you, this is not her child. That girl’s parent became very upset and told Omar and Asim’s parents that their daughter will talk to whomever she pleases and that they think I am an amazing girl and that they are being completely inappropriate. So I got some points there. I find that incredibly rude and presumptuous that ANY parent would tell someone else’s child not to talk to someone. Whatever…these people are clearly insanity in the making. Also, according to Asim his Mother had “suspicions” that Asim was going to talk to me when he came back to America because she knew we were very good friends. Well, I guess she was correct, because Asim and I did speak. Asim did tell me however that we won’t be able to talk again on the phone, but that we could message on Facebook. I am going to refrain from that stuff.
Anyway…here is my question: Is this messed up? Or is this messed up? I guess I should tell you that my decision is to still wait for Omar to come back. I know he will eventually and frankly I have so much going on with my last semester of college and getting a job that it really doesn’t bother me with waiting. I truly love Omar, and as Asim told me, Omar loves me just as much. I know he may not come back now, next month, or by December, but he will come back. So…what are everyone’s thoughts? I love you ALL!!!!
My fiancée (I have decided now to still call him that due to the situation you will read), Omar is still in Pakistan sadly. His brother came back on the 22nd of this month and he has spoken to me on the phone twice. The first time I spoke with him was the day he arrived back to America, which surprisingly his Mother did not come back with him yet, odd. So, we spoke for a brief period of time, and then on the 23rd he sent me a message on Facebook asking me to call him. So I called him and we talked for a while, and it really didn’t get me any answers except answers that just blew my mind. It turns out that basically Omar is being held “hostage.” I presume that is the nicest way to say that his parents ******* kidnapped him. Excuse my language but this stuff pisses me off to a level most people would not understand. His brother was telling me that I should try to move on because it will never work and the reason why it will never work is not because Omar doesn’t want to, but because he is not coming back to America. So I said to his brother, “Well, Omar has a plane ticket, so there STILL is the chance that he is coming back. I would be a complete hypocrite and ******* if I just ditched on your brother.” So Asim (Omar’s brother) replied, “Yes, he has a ticket, but that doesn’t mean he will use it, or that my parents will let him come back.” So I plainly replied that there is still hope, and I didn’t care what he thought, but I was not going to give up on someone who was STOLEN away. So his brother and I spoke for some time and his brother admitted that if Omar does come back that I will be most likely the first person that Omar contacts. This made me smile. :smile: Corny I know. :eek: To continue on, for now I digress, well there is still that hope and I find it ****** up that his parents are keeping him there HOSTAGE. What kinds of parents do that? I know the whole culture thing, so please…no one mention that, but in general as a PARENT no matter what culture…how socially and mentally screwed up are you?
His brother went on to tell me that his brother has a job at his Uncle’s company however; Omar is not allowed to work at the office. Omar lives in Lahore and the company is in Islamabad (4 hours away). Omar’s MOTHER said she did not want him working in an office of out of her sight because she knew that he would continue talking to me and she would not stand for it. So now, Omar has to work from home, with motherly supervision, with the internet. Not really a good thing for someone when they want to actually start their career, but who am I to say anything apparently. Upon further discussion Asim and I continued talking and Asim admitted that his brother hated Pakistan and did not want to be there, but his parents well…we know that answer. So, I told his brother that he better be careful because once Omar gets enough money of his own he is just going to peace out and his family will NEVER see him again. Asim agreed and said that was a huge fear of his. Well, so that pretty much concludes our discussion.
What I also found out is that Omar and Asim’s mother spoke to a mutual friend that Asim and I have and told her that she was not allowed to talk to me. Mind you, this is not her child. That girl’s parent became very upset and told Omar and Asim’s parents that their daughter will talk to whomever she pleases and that they think I am an amazing girl and that they are being completely inappropriate. So I got some points there. I find that incredibly rude and presumptuous that ANY parent would tell someone else’s child not to talk to someone. Whatever…these people are clearly insanity in the making. Also, according to Asim his Mother had “suspicions” that Asim was going to talk to me when he came back to America because she knew we were very good friends. Well, I guess she was correct, because Asim and I did speak. Asim did tell me however that we won’t be able to talk again on the phone, but that we could message on Facebook. I am going to refrain from that stuff.
Anyway…here is my question: Is this messed up? Or is this messed up? I guess I should tell you that my decision is to still wait for Omar to come back. I know he will eventually and frankly I have so much going on with my last semester of college and getting a job that it really doesn’t bother me with waiting. I truly love Omar, and as Asim told me, Omar loves me just as much. I know he may not come back now, next month, or by December, but he will come back. So…what are everyone’s thoughts? I love you ALL!!!!