So what now?

[kaydee]

As many of you know, my ex and I split about 3 months ago because he thought I was cheating on him. Now he is dating an (ex) friend of mine.

However, this weekend I was talking with some friends who are also friends of my ex. They told me that he really isn't sure about this girl, and that when he broke up with me, it was because he was completely heart broken at the thought of betrayal. It wasn't because he didn't still love me.

Up until this weekend he had nothing to go on but my word, thus he was inclined not to believe me, thinking that I was just trying to save myself. But yesterday, I stumbled across an IM conversation between my sister and the man who claims to have had sex with me while I was dating my ex. This conversation, while very lengthy, reads "I like your sister....nothing has happened between us, nothing is going to happen between us. she loves [her ex]."

Now I finally have proof that I didn't cheat on him.

So what do I do? Do I show him the conversation and just hope he still has feelings for me? Should I just leave it alone, and wait for him to approach me?

His birthday's coming up, and I was thinking that I could buy him a book (The Count of Monte Cristo by Alexandre Dumas because I got framed by a friend like Edmond) and in the book put a copy of the conversation with a note at the end that says "Four months too late, but at least now you know I never lied to you."

Any suggestions? I would greatly appreciate it.

[Tuxgal]

That book with the note seems a good idea to me...but don't jump back into things with him. But this will at least "clear your name". Let us know how it goes.

[jimbo666]

if you love him why even doubt yourself an attempt to get him back? if you have proof go show him...he does have feelings for you still they don't just go away. he loves you and he will love you for a very long time if not forever. just after so much time he won't be in love with you anymore and you need to fix that before it's too late. at the same time don't ever think it's too late. i hate to see you two broke up for nothing like that i'm really sorry. i'm not sure what to say i just think you should go talk to him and put a lot of effort into getting him back. sitting around and waiting won't do anything i can promise you that....good luck.

[EC]

You love him and I understand that it may have hurt you how he doesn't trust you. One way or the other, I can see that you still have a lot of feelings for him, he's probably hurting, believing that you've cheated on him.

Since you have nothing to lose in your relationship with him anymore, why not tell him and possibly end his pain, no matter what the outcomes you know that you did the right thing.