should i break up with her?

[tekkenman]

Hi hope someone can clear my head,

my girlfriend and i have been going out for almost 6 months. she has a guy friend in work she has known for about 7 months who has said nasty things about me and of course when we split for a week he continued to say bad things about me. i accept that she has friends in work and to be honest im not the jealous type. i dont like him because of whats she tells me he says about me. i have been over the top romantic with her lately, flowers, champagne, the works! moneys tight so i hadnt been able to treat her in a while.

My lodger is leaving and so im in a situation where money could be really tight. i did find a girl who is a stranger to me to move in and pay the price i was looking for, my girlfriend got jealous and said she would move in and pursuaded me because she is getting a promotion although hasnt got the signed contract yet. i was a bit hesitant because its a big step even if she has her own room.

i called the girl up and refused the room to her so it was official my girlfriend was moving in. my girlfriend calls me the next day and says she doesnt want to pay the price because she wasnt sure if she could afford it. she has to pass exams to get this promotion. she tells me she is (after we both decided we were not going to go so she could study) going to her male friends bday party(some of my mates would have been there because i used to work in the same place as her), the previous day she rounded up a few people and went into town and risked getting caught by police (shes a learner driver and isnt supposed to drive on her own) to get him a presant...needless to say she went to a lot of effort. anyway so she is going to the party and hasnt asked me to go with her and infact suggested to me to pick her up in town so she doesnt have to pay for a taxi and she is planning to call in sick the next day....i have no confidence at this point in the relationship or her getting the job and being able to pay the rent

im feelin like crap right now

what should i do?

[**Sapphire**]

Welcome to ATLF, glad that you joined us! :hello:

I wouldn't say to break up with her at the moment. I would say that you 2 need to have a long talk about the things you told us. Seems there are alot of questions you could be asking her about all this so you need to find some time to talk to her.

You turned down your boarder because she was going to move in, now you don't have extra income coming in for who knows how long.

You need to communicate with her & she needs to do it back, something isn't right, but that's where talking to her will help a whole bunch. From there you can make a better decision on what you want to do going forward.

[Pink]

Yep, I agree with Sapphire. She's doing you wrong, hun. First off, she shouldn't of told you she was going to move in if she wasn't 100% sure. Now you're stuck with no one. Second, she should tell that guy at her work to buzz off. Seriously. He's only going to cause more drama in the future and that isn't fair to your relationship. Like Sapphire said, talk to her. Don't be afraid to ask any questions you may have for her. Just be open and don't hold back. Communication is always the key.

[daisychip]

I think it sounds like she gave you a sign when she decided not to move in. I don't think you need to break up with her but you should probably find out from her where she see's the relationship going.

[aussiecoffee007]

yeah i wouldnt break up with her right away either, but i think you need a huge long serious talk about your future, where your relationship is going (was it just the price that she didnt move in?) and about this other guy... ask her why she is going to such efforts to get him a present, go to the party, etc and didnt even invite you.
plus thats kinda low with the whole ride thing, that she would try to use your car but not invite you to the party.