Divorce and children

[mashmac]

Ok - the marriage is not really working but you have children. They are small. They keep you very busy. Everyday they do something that amazes you. And you both love them. And you are both good parents. And you are civilized to each other. And you have a nice home. So you think it's best to stay because the thought of losing them and not being able to see them every day is the worst thing on earth. And neither of you wants that.

Any thoughts from the ones that did so? Or any advice at all?

[Tuxie]

My kids are not that small, but I battled with that same thought/fear for the longest time. I didn't want to end the marriage because of them. When I asked for advice, it was usually something like... "The kids can tell something is wrong with the relationship, especially if there is tension and bickering. You think you'd be doing them a favor... but really, you're not".

Don't get me wrong, kids are important. But kids should not be the only reason to keep a marriage together either.

Just my two cents...

[mashmac]

Exactly the answer I am getting too. "The kids can tell something is wrong with the relationship, especially if there is tension and bickering. You think you'd be doing them a favor... but really, you're not".

I am not convinced that divorcing is better for them unless you and your partner
are uncivilized, rude to each other or end up hitting each other with a hammer. If you and your partner agree that you will adapt it so they have a nice home - why is it so widely viewed as the wrong choice? I mean each of you could have his/her room, space. A bit unorthodox but...