watching but not looking

[daisychip]

i have not been in the market to date anyone since my last relationship turned to such a disaster but i have learned alot about the type of man i need and the kind i don't. the sadness is, is that i have not seen one man that i can consider to be a real man. where the hell do they live? i know they're out there, my brother is one....my son is one but i cant find one for me.

i am an intelligent person and have become more so due to the experiences ive had but sometimes wish i wasnt......at least in ignorance i wouldnt have to be alone. im really not desperate for companionship i jus dont get why im not blessed with it, being the kind heart that i am.

i dont think i ask to much. to find s/o with TRUE confidence and a heart that matches mine.

is it wrong of me to feel like i've been through so much and it should be my turn?

[**Sapphire**]

Hiya Daisy hun! :)

No, I don't think your wrong 1 bit to want a good man this time & to be able to find 1 as well.

I don't know hun, it seems these days dating has gotten extremely hard. Too much emphasis on looks, material things, selfishness goes around on both sides. How can that be any kind of basis for a relationship?

You will meet the type of guy your looking for though, be patient (I know easier said than done), but there are good men out there hun.

We are all here for you on or off the forum if you need us. :)

[aussiecoffee007]

yeah i think dating is hard now too... i feel like men think women will do all the work now too! :) plus especially in the american culture at least things are always just getting more materialistic and objectifying... of course its natural to want a good man! i think you will find one when yuore not explicitly looking for one in some unexpected place... i know there is someone out there for you.