Friendship Confidences...

[**Sapphire**]

If your friend confided in you about a problem they had how would you feel about it?

Have you ever had the thought "Like I really didn't need to know this at the moment" as I have enough to worry about myself at the moment?

[~Teej~]

No way....

I am there for my friends no matter what..If they need to tell me something they know that I would never tell anyone else as well.

I don't think you should ever be too busy for your friends as you never know when you will need to count on them for support

[**Sapphire**]

The very few chosen friends that I have left now, I would do anything for them. It doesn't matter to me if I'm in crisis, if they need me I'm there.

Now some others that I consider more like people I know than friends, I don't think I would stop everything to be there for them. It takes me a long time to trust people nowadays & the few people that I talk to I haven't gotten to the point of really trusting them.

Now that's not saying I won't help them or listen to them when needed, but if I have my life spinning out of control I have to take care of me when it comes to the acquaintances. I'm sorry if that sounds harsh to some, but from my bad past experiences, it's the way I have had to become to protect myself from being hurt.

[Pink]

Well it depends. I've been in a situation where a friend needed me and I had a lot of stuff on my plate at the time. I had to sort of juggle them both because I really cared about her as well, and she's been there for me countless times. I try to be there for someone the best I can and help in any way possible.

[aussiecoffee007]

oh ive pretty much taken on the role of confidante in my friend group--well, even with people i dont know--so i like hearing the problems because i like trying to help... there are a few people though who go on and on about problems and just want to complain, they dont want actual help or advice or dont want to change anything, so THOSE types of people can be quite frustrating!

[daisychip]

i used to be a person that thought i had to be helpful if anyone felt the need to bring their problem to another(me) but i've come to realise that most people just want s/o to listen. sure it'd be great if we could fix each others probs but thats not realistic......and for the most part when we speak them out loud its easier to get rid of all the garbage and find our own solution.......a few well placed questions to their dillemma is usually all thats needed for them to find an answer. of course that doesnt always stop me from putting in my two cents, which is well documented here in the forum..lol......but ive learned notn to let people take up to much of my energy on their stuff. friend or not.....i will talk to you but only on my time unless it is truly an emergency situation. my heart is huge but it can only stay that way if i take care to guard it from the people that will suck the life and not be there when i need shock treatment because of their inconsideration.