Slept with somoeone in a relationship... what do I do??

[puglover24]

OK long story short. I met this guy about 6 months ago when I moved to the village he lives in (for work)and their was an instant attraction.

I then found out that he is a couple of years younger than me and also in a relationship, its not serious(for him anyway),the girlfriend lives in the City he goes to college in, and the City I am from coincidently. Its sort of a seaside resort that we live in so when the tourists descend upon us during the summer he soon forgets about her. So considering all this I turned down his advances, but we did become friends.

Over the time sI've lived here, we've gotten really close and spend a lot of time together,I suppose we were fooling ourselves to think that it was going to lead to more.

So now the inevitable has happened after a drunken lock-in in our local pub last night and I don't know what to do.He told me that he loves me and wants to end his relationship, he said he's felt this way for months and feels that when he is with his girlfriend he is cheating on me.. To be honest I too felt jealous when he went to spend time with her in the city but I feel terrible about how this might hurt her.

I feel like we have something special but people always feel that don't they?

I've been avoiding his calls all day, and have 101 things going through my head, not to mention the guilt that is hanging over me.

Any words of wisdom would be appreciated... has anyone been here before.

[**Sapphire**]

Welcome to ATLF puglover, I'm glad that you joined us! :)

Well I think if you both are feeling that there is something more there for you both & it's enough that he does want to be with you, then why not give it a shot?

Let him say goodbye to his girlfriend first though. I wouldn't suggest anything more happen between you 2 until he has clearly broken up with his girlfriend. If he's truly serious about what he is saying to you, then if you decide to give you both a shot, he will break it off with her.

[puglover24]

Thank you Sapphire, you know I think thats exactly what I wanted to hear. I'm worried what people will think of me, I live and work in a small town so the minute we decide to tell people it will be all over. I'm just glad that that was your first reaction.

[**Sapphire**]

Your welcome hun.

To be honest, it's never a good thing to cheat. :(

If he is honest with you about his feelings for you, then he needs to break it off with her. No more leading her on at all, it will eventually hurt you, you know?

I would suggest talking to him, maybe over the phone. You 2 get everything out in the open. Then he can make the decision on if he wants to break up with his girlfriend or not.

[aussiecoffee007]

yeah i would just tell him how you feel and say, look, i dont want to keep being the other woman... and give him some time to decide if he wants to choose you or her, cuz if he is being honest, there has to be on that he is with and one that he isnt.