Need advice (new member)

[Draik]

I am 19 turning 20 on the 24th this month, I am married 6 monthes.

I have been with my wife for about 4 1/2 to 5 years. I didnt have alot of friends when we started dating and about 1 year ago I started going to alot of parties and ended up cheating 3 times. We made up and got married anyways, everytime I tryed to leave her she wouldn't go.

Now I dont know what I should do I could stay with her and have a happy life or try to find another girl and leave her but then I would feel really bad about it not to mention the shame from my family and her family and my friends. Even my family would be ashamed.

Then I would also take the risk of never finding a women like her ever again.

I also have to say I dont know what I would do without her she puts direction in my life. I am afraid without her I would end up a bum on the street.

[Tuxie]

I am 19 turning 20 on the 24th this month, I am married 6 months.

I have been with my wife for about 4 1/2 to 5 years. I didnt have alot of friends when we started dating and about 1 year ago I started going to alot of parties and ended up cheating 3 times. We made up and got married anyways, every time I tried to leave her she wouldn't go.

Now I dont know what I should do I could stay with her and have a happy life or try to find another girl and leave her but then I would feel really bad about it not to mention the shame from my family and her family and my friends. Even my family would be ashamed.

Then I would also take the risk of never finding a women like her ever again.

I also have to say I dont know what I would do without her she puts direction in my life. I am afraid without her I would end up a bum on the street.
First of all Draik, welcome to ATLF. Glad to see you here!

Next... I'm confused. Why are you considering leaving? She sounds like she is good for you. If the cheating is causing a problem, I'd seriously think about counseling... at least for yourself.

Lastly... if it's the partying that is causing you to 'stray', I'd stop going to parties. Let me put it this way... if your doctor told you to give up eating steaks because they're bad, you wouldn't go stand outside a butcher shop lusting at the meat.

I hope this helped. Keep us updated. :)

[EC]

I can see your pattern there, you cheated on her 3 times, either you have a problem or I am not doing what everyone else is doing :confused:

If you value her so much that you think its a risk that you may never find someone like her again, why did you cheat on her and tried to leave to leave her so many times?

I don't think she actually gives you directions in life, since you tried to leave her, I am assuming you would have enough confidence and sense of independence for yourself.

She is probably more like someone mature that is willing to discuss with you about issues and look forward to the future, don't miss the train if you decide to be with her, look forward with her, to the same direction.