kh0621
12-21-2006, 01:09 AM
Well, I was dating this girl for about 3 months, and this was the second time we dated. The first time, about a year ago we casually dated and that one broke off because as I had found out later, she went back to her old boyfriend. That was not really a big sting because at the time I was still trying to get over my then just ex-girlfriend and she was in a similar position with her ex. However, the way she broke it off was with no warning...just stopped all communication out of nowhere and left me scratching my head for about a month until we talked again and I found out what happened.
After that, I got back with my ex and tried to make another go of that. She, meanwhile, moved in with her ex. That broke off about 3 months later and she was back to calling me, wanting to get back together. I held her off for about 8 months while I was truly seeing where my realtionship with my ex was going. Needless to say, that relationship fizzled for good and we got back together.
We started out our second go around great. Everything was there, which wasn't a surprise because we always got along terrific. Then, about three months in, I got a text message saying she needed "space" and that I should get my stuff out of her apartment. This was completely out of the blue. The first reason she gave was that we were "incompatable" and then that I was too clingy. Then as I pressed she brought up the fact that she wasn't satisfied in bed. All of this came without one warning, without any complaints at all beforehand and, even more confusing, only a day or two after she said how great things were going.
Needless to say, I am devastated...from the break-up and the reasons she gave. I cannot reconcile her reasons given that there were no issues brought up or complaints about any part of our relationship at all..and it was not like we were strangers before this realtionship..we actually knew each other for over 2 years.
I have a strong suspicion she left me again for the ex, which is not good obviously, but what is bothering me more is the "not satisfied" reason which I want to know if is something someone would use as an excuse, knowing how devastating that can be to someone else?
After that, I got back with my ex and tried to make another go of that. She, meanwhile, moved in with her ex. That broke off about 3 months later and she was back to calling me, wanting to get back together. I held her off for about 8 months while I was truly seeing where my realtionship with my ex was going. Needless to say, that relationship fizzled for good and we got back together.
We started out our second go around great. Everything was there, which wasn't a surprise because we always got along terrific. Then, about three months in, I got a text message saying she needed "space" and that I should get my stuff out of her apartment. This was completely out of the blue. The first reason she gave was that we were "incompatable" and then that I was too clingy. Then as I pressed she brought up the fact that she wasn't satisfied in bed. All of this came without one warning, without any complaints at all beforehand and, even more confusing, only a day or two after she said how great things were going.
Needless to say, I am devastated...from the break-up and the reasons she gave. I cannot reconcile her reasons given that there were no issues brought up or complaints about any part of our relationship at all..and it was not like we were strangers before this realtionship..we actually knew each other for over 2 years.
I have a strong suspicion she left me again for the ex, which is not good obviously, but what is bothering me more is the "not satisfied" reason which I want to know if is something someone would use as an excuse, knowing how devastating that can be to someone else?