Need advice...

[colleenbro]

I am an Australian girl. I met a man through Online Dating. I think I'm falling in love with him but still I don't know he has the same feeling for me or not...Give me some advice about that how can I know about him... :)

[Tuxie]

Communication is the key.

I met tuxgal through a forum similar to this one. It was through chatting with each other, that we got to know one another. So, I'd say, talk to him... every chance you can. :)

[colleenbro]

Thanks

For the wonderful advice..If you got some more ideas related to my topic then reply me ok?
:)

[Neo_Geisha]

I know this may sound trite, but people are not always honest online. I have seen a lot of bad things happen to some people I know. I don't want to discourage you, but I also don't want to see more hurt by online dating. :)

[colleenbro]

Oh ...
You are right..first I need to be sure about him that he is not faking to me...
well thanks for pointing out this thing to me....:)

[oyster]

use live web cams to chat so you can see clearly. email and IM does not show people's emotion clearly.

better meet him in person before developping more ideas or deeper love for him

[Tuxie]

I know this may sound trite, but people are not always honest online. I have seen a lot of bad things happen to some people I know. I don't want to discourage you, but I also don't want to see more hurt by online dating. :)
better meet him in person before developping more ideas or deeper love for him
Good points!

Relationships can not be built online alone. At some point, you've got to actually meet... face to face.

[UniqueDesigns]

This is going to sound harsh...

If you build it up strictly online, you are doomed from the beginning.

I've had my fair share of these things... you know the things I am talking about. Take it too far online, don't meet early enough and things go downhill.

My best advice to you, is ask! Like everyone else is saying, communication is key. If you can't communicate, there is no sense is continuing at all. Speak, openly, let your heart guide you... I guarantee it'll take you places you've never seen.

Just ask if they feel the same. No harm in it... worst thing that happens is he says no, right?

Any thoughts?

[Neo_Geisha]

This is going to sound harsh...

If you build it up strictly online, you are doomed from the beginning.

I've had my fair share of these things... you know the things I am talking about. Take it too far online, don't meet early enough and things go downhill.

My best advice to you, is ask! Like everyone else is saying, communication is key. If you can't communicate, there is no sense is continuing at all. Speak, openly, let your heart guide you... I guarantee it'll take you places you've never seen.

Just ask if they feel the same. No harm in it... worst thing that happens is he says no, right?

Any thoughts?


Unique design is right....

Think of it this way... It may be easy to fall for someone online because they show all of their best qualities. You have an ideal of them built up in your head. And if this relationship breaks up while you are online you may be hurt but it wont be to the same degree as if you had actually met this person and been going out with them and knowing them for who they actually are. I think that the internet is deceiving for numerous reasons and that it can really mess with people's heads. You really cannot communitcate with someone on the same level online as you would in person. I hope that makes sense.

[smackie9]

It's too easy to be something you are not, on the net. Meeting someone online is way different than meeting someone in person. I'm talking personality wise. They usually turn out not to be what you had expected, because your expectations are so high. In most cases it can be a big let down and become a very awkward situation.

[aussiecoffee007]

as tuxguy said, just make sure you communicate... often is good, because then you become part of each others lives (as best simulated through the distance, at least) and that way you can know through time if he has a chance of being a real long-distance relationship or just a huge doomed crush. i would take things slowly, and talk to him about things if you start to feel that he likes you back... and keep us updated! :)

[aussiecoffee007]

i feel stupid for double posting in the span of about three seconds, but i wanted to completley second (or third?) that online, you can be the best of you who you are, but never completley who you are with faults and all. if you start talking over the phone, or write letters or something, a bit of that persons true true identity comes out--perhaps they are awkward at talking, or really quite rude, or what have you--but if you keep to only online, you will only see them for who they want to be--their revised and edited emails, their thoughts with 30 minutes to think about them--if that makes any sense.

[mashmac]

Honestly - no idea! Can't imagine I could fall for someone on the net. It seems so unreal to me. I know it happens and right here our Administrators seem to have worked out the impossible. But I guess that is really not much help at all!

[Tuxgal]

Honestly - no idea! Can't imagine I could fall for someone on the net. It seems so unreal to me. I know it happens and right here our Administrators seem to have worked out the impossible. But I guess that is really not much help at all! lol Well, we have met in person several times. Spending sometimes as much as a week together. But yeah...it's not been easy for either of us. It takes a lot of trust a lot of communication...things we've figured out through trial and error...heh. There's no way we could continue like this indefinately though. Someday we will be together, living together. We are just trying to get by until then.

[mashmac]

Yes - that's why your love seems to be the real deal! :) For me it's still quite amazing that you can meet people on the net and felt so attracted to each other and then meet them and fall in love. But really - this is my first "active" participation in cyberspace. Up until now - I never used the net this way. :D
- to interact with people I never met in person.