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[spaceship94]

So I'm 17, still have a lot to learn about life but this is just something that's been bugging me. It seems every girl I date that's younger than me is WAAAAY too immature for my taste. At the same time, I generally go for girls who are a little older simply because generally, a lot of them are more mature. I try to stay within' 2 years of my age. My last girlfriend was 15 and thought she was 25. Long story short, she was just a little too wild for my taste. I dated a girl before that for about 3 months, she was about a year older than me and the relationship itself was great. She dumped be cause we didnt see each other enough but I later found out she was cheating and thats why it ended. Since the 15 year old, I've been strictly older chicks but it seems the stereotype really fast. See me as younger, more immature, just want to get in their pants, etc. I guess what I'm saying is, whats some stuff to do to be more appealing to older females to seperate me from the crowd?

[Tuxgal]

Hi there. Well, you gotta be careful with older girls until your 18. I'd reccomend you stay with girls your age or younger for now. Maybe you could find a mature 17 year old, for now. As for appealing to older girls, just be yourself, let them know what your about. Tell them that you aren't after just getting into their pants. Take an interest in things that interest them.

[spaceship94]

Well I'm not going any higher than 19.I guess it's jsut the thing though. "Girls" always go for the a-hole type. I don't know what it is but whatever. They just don't seem to care about getting treated good over a long term. They'd just rather feel important for about 10 minutes and then the melt down. They all say they want a decent guy, but how many of them go for that? It's really kind've irritating but like I said, I guess that shows the immaturity or whatever you wanna call it. All the ones my age that would be good picks are either taken or what I consider "out of my league" which is another problem but I just cant seem to get over it. Basically, if I get turned down, I leave it there and move on. I don't keep on trying.

[Tuxie]

Hiya and welcome,

Two things to remember....

First of all, age is just a number. Not all 15 or 16 year olds act like 15 or 16 year olds. Some of them act younger... some older. No two girls will act the same. As I read what you're saying, it sounds like you're trying to attract older, more mature girls. I'm telling you that there are mature 16 or 17 year olds out there. You just need to find the one for you. And that, my friend, is the search that most of us endure.

Secondly, there is someone out there for you (even though you may not believe that now). You will meet someone that will match up with what you want, and you will be what she's looking for.

I hope this helps some, I wish you the best. :) Let us know how it turns out.

[spaceship94]

Well you're right, age is just a number for the most part. I mean, it's highly improbable that it'd work out if I went out and found someone 28 with 2 kids, divorced, etc. Simply because I'm not ready for that yet. I see you're point though. :D

[Neo_Geisha]

Hiya and welcome,

Two things to remember....

First of all, age is just a number. Not all 15 or 16 year olds act like 15 or 16 year olds. Some of them act younger... some older. No two girls will act the same. As I read what you're saying, it sounds like you're trying to attract older, more mature girls. I'm telling you that there are mature 16 or 17 year olds out there. You just need to find the one for you. And that, my friend, is the search that most of us endure.

Secondly, there is someone out there for you (even though you may not believe that now). You will meet someone that will match up with what you want, and you will be what she's looking for.

I hope this helps some, I wish you the best. :) Let us know how it turns out.


Tuxguy is right, age is just a number.

My husband and I married when I was 18 and he was 19. (We had known each other for about 4 years already.) We were young and still are, now we are 22. Though, we are not your sterotypical 22 year olds and we were not your sterotypical 18/19 year olds when we married. We are much more mature. So, what I am trying to say is that even though they are far and few between, I am sure there are girls your age that are at your maturity level, and on the other hand, I am sure there are women who are 25 who have the maturity level of that of your avergae 12 year old; in fact, I know there are!

However, if you do continue to aim for the older girls, Tuxgirl hit it right on the head, just be yourself. There is no better dating advice than that for people of all ages. That is what it all comes down to. Try to talk to them about things that are not what they would perceive as your "regualr teenager discussion" and just begin with that. Good luck! :)

[audreycsmith]

Try to enjoy your young life, without the call to have female companionship. It is important that you get all what you can get out of your education first. I know you are thinking, here is another one, but, yeah, call it that if you will. Females can get in the way of that. That is the problem our world is facing right now. There are no achievers in higher high school classes, or college now a days. Everyone is playing, and no one wants to be serious about their education.

Try to go to the library, if you are still stuck on finding someone that is mature to the point of what you feel maturity is, at the moment. Places like art museums are great too.

I am not encouraging you to have a relationship at your age. You are still too young to date or have a girlfriend. Like I said, stick to the books. The fun will be there for you later.

Sincerely,

Audrey C. Smith