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Jenkooi
11-23-2006, 01:44 AM
I've been told countless times by stangers and people I personally know that's I'm beautiful, sexy, hot, whatever. They tell me that what makes up my personality makes me the perfect girl (of course I have issues though!).

And I can't get a date (much less a boyfriend) to save my life. My theory, since I am a dominate woman, is that I'm intimidating. Any suggestions?
TAYTAY
11-23-2006, 04:18 AM
I've been told countless times by stangers and people I personally know that's I'm beautiful, sexy, hot, whatever. They tell me that what makes up my personality makes me the perfect girl (of course I have issues though!).

And I can't get a date (much less a boyfriend) to save my life. My theory, since I am a dominate woman, is that I'm intimidating. Any suggestions?

girl i had the same problem but as i got older all i did was stay confident and jus open to anything and anyone cause you'll neva know wat can happen from that i date more than i could eva imagine and im lovin it!!!!!
oyster
11-29-2006, 06:25 PM
I used to have a best female friend. She was also complaining about not being able to date. What I noticed is that if you have similar traits as my friend:
1-Talk a lot,
2-Talk like a machine gun (don't listen for people's reply)
3-Hard tone (even unconsciently)
4-Cold (not touchy feely)
5-Don't smile too often
6-Have not overcome grief (death in family, break up, job lost), people see it in your eyes.

So what I say is, think about it, then work on a few items at a time. Start with smiling
Jenkooi
12-04-2006, 09:10 PM
Heh, Thanks for both of your replys!

Oyster, that's some great advice, thanks a bunch *big smile*
oyster
12-05-2006, 12:54 AM
Just another thought. If you are drop dead gorgeous (my ex-best female friend was drop dead gorgeous with huge chest), that could be another issue.

She was always paranoid that guys were only interested in sleeping with her. This paronoia made her build an Alcatraz wall that made her so unattractive that guys don't even bother approaching her.
Tuxgal
12-05-2006, 01:37 PM
That could be true, in part. If you are very beautiful you may be worried that all guys just want to sleep with you or they only like you for your looks. Maybe try meeting someone online, not showing your picture at first until you know they like you. Then you'll know they like you for you...not your looks. Just a suggestion. :)