Trust Issues

[kissfrmkate]

I have been on and off with my boyfriend for about 4 years now, We have both made mistakes harming our relationship which still seems to effect us today. About 2 months ago we again got back together, but this time it seems everything I say and do he believes to be a lie..and I do not understand this because I have never cheated on him or anything severe to make him have this trust issue; the funny thing is though that he is the one who has actually cheated on me, so his distrust in me just confuses me. He seems to want for me to have this undying trust for him when he has no trust in me. He is also very possesive of who I talk to and communicate with, and he automatically hates every guy who dares even look at me. I am confused on so many different levels, does anyone have any advice?

[Tuxgal]

Hello and welcome. Wow...that is a tough one. There aren't any real easy answers. We'll think on it and get back to you. But I wanted to welcome you and acknowledge your question. We're glad to have you. I'm sorry for your problems.

[Tuxie]

Trust is a tricky thing to some people. For me, a lot of my trust issues come from bad relationships in the past. I just really felt like I couldn't trust anyone. Do you know what his past relationships have been like?

I don't really have any answer for you either. Only thing I can offer is my own realization on the trust subject. I was thinking about this only a few days ago, as a matter of fact. I seem to have trusting issues. My gf and I have had problems because of this, but I realized something the other day. I realized that she has to trust me as much as I trust her. She has to trust me that I'm out doing what I told her I was doing... and that I'm with who I said I was going to be with. For me, keeping this in mind, it seems to be easier for me to trust her.

Good luck and chin up! :)

[demonica75]

i think that since he is the one who cheated on you, maybe he is afraid of himself, maybe he can't trust himself and therefore he does't trust you because he fears that if he was capable of cheating, then you might do the same.