Confused

[forensikfreak]

So I am engaged to this guy...at 17...yeah, I know what you're thinking "wow, thats really young to be engaged"...Well, sometimes I agree, but what can you do when you're in love right?
Recently, my guy's been changing...he's not as caring as before, and all he thinks about recently is himself. I'm not sure if I should worry about this or not.
However, I am, in fact, worried about our relationship in the fact that...I don't think i'm ready for such a big commitment. I want to be able to have fun and not be tied down, but I still love him.
What should I do?:confused:

[adorkably x cute]

okay. well there is this boy and we went out for 6 months, almost 7 months. then during the summer, we never saw each other or talked so i broke up with him and we loved each other. when we were going out we called each other everynight and talked on the phone for like almost 2 hours and we were in love i just knew it. and then ever since i broke up with him, its been very bad. after that summer, he still liked me and i liked him but he also liked one of my best friends who gets all the guys that i like. so he asked her out instead of me and he said he would have asked ME out if i would have told him i liked him. but they broke up becase she never talked to him and every since that has happened, we never talk. he doenst even look at me. what do i do? please help me.

[demonica75]

dear emily,

you are so young, i know you are so in love,but i do think seventeen is way too young too get married. i know you don't think that right know, because you are so in love. is your boyfriend seventeen as well? if he is, he is also too young and he will go through a lot of changes and so will you. your life is just starting, your moods and feelings will go through so many changes. i think you should be in a relationship with him for few years before you commit to marriage. i am sure there is so much still to learn about each other, you need to give it more time.

[audreycsmith]

Dear F:

Being engaged at this age is way too young. Young people are so busy trying to grow up that you miss out on all the things that God wanted you to experience as a young adult. You have problems at home, feel too much pressure, right? The engagement is your way out, when the two of you do get married. It is pure natural for you to start thinking different about your engagement. Your friend, if he truly loves you, will wait for a while before he steps into a big commitment such as marriage. What about your schooling? I am talking about College. Is your finance' planning on going to College? You cannot get a good job, paying you what you deserve, without College. Plus, when you go to College, you will meet other people, with interests just as yours. Is your boyfriend (finance') ready for that?

I would announce that the engagement is off, that you still love him, but you are not sure if this is what you want as this time. Marriage is about truth and commitment. Are you ready to do both? It doesn't sound like you are being truthful to him right now. Give other people a chance to meet and be with you, and you give him that same chance, so that when you do step to the alter, it is because you know deep in your heart, that your man is the man you want to love and respect - for life.

bfn: audreycsmith@verizon.net

[spaceship94]

Well, only you know if "truly" love him and only he knows if he "truly" loves you. I was engeged to this girl when I was 14... I got her a ring and all that good stuff. Shortly after that, she started getting REALLY jealous. Honestly, it was to the point of paranoid and I couldn't even talk to another female (my family included) without being accused of cheating. I never gave her a reason not to trust me but she was just over-posessive. While I still cared about her, I realized I was still young and we both still had a lot to learn. Alot can change from 14 to 17 so I'm getting to that.
Right now I have a friend. We used to talk and hang out all the time. She started dating this guy and she started spending more time with him, which I can understand, so just showing respect for him, I backed off a lot because I don't want to be the cause of break-up and lose a friend over it. Well, They only dated a few months and they're engaged, she's not even 17 yet. I called her one time since then and haven't since then because she was scared he'd find out and dump her for it. How sad is that?
Although your situation seems to e slightly differrent from these 2 I've mentioned, my point is you're still young and have a lot to learn. I am your age and I'm more appreciatative every day that I took that ring back and let her go (There were other issues that had to do with that decision). Since then, I can say I've loved 1 girl, but that's also another story. Other than that, I'm enjoying just dating around and enjoying life without a big commitment. You only get youth once, so don't throw it away trying to grow up too fast. I reccomend just sitting down and expressing how you feel to him, and hopefully, he'll understand and straighten up. If not, then you DEFINATELY might want to reconsider a big commitment like that. And just for truth but kicks and laughs, the average male's brain isn't fully developed until about age 25 if you want a decent gauge to judge by before you get married. ;)Hope all goes well for you!