kaydee
11-12-2006, 08:41 PM
So here's the story...
I have been dating this guy for nearly a year, and though we are both rather young, we've been pretty serious. Before last weekend it was all kisses and "I love you" 's. Last weekend a jerk that I used to be good friends with told my boyfriend I was cheating on him, which by the by, I was not. :mad: Anyhoo, after that weekend my boyfriend broke up with me, and he said it wasn't because I "cheated" on him, but because of my personality. I begged him for a second chance, however, and he took me back. That weekend we had an amazing time, some of which was sex, but most of which was just laying in each other's arms, watching tv, and talking about how much we love each other. Out of no where this saturday, he told me that I was annoying him, and that he was thinking about breaking up with me again. So I called him hysterially yesterday and told him I couldn't handle him leaving me. He said we would take it one day at a time and see how things went. When i called him today he did not seem happy to hear from me at all. So I started to get angry with him and I started to talk to him about why he was making me mad. He in turn started talking about why I was making him mad.
We came up with this:
He was making me mad because I was trying to be the sweetest, kindest girl in the world to him, buying him gifts all the time and always asking him how he was feeling ect. and he would be completely indifferent. He, in turn, was mad at me because I was being too clingy, and I would get angry way too easily. We determined that I was getting mad because I felt alone and he was getting mad because he felt scared of me getting angry again. We also determined that the reason that we are having this problem is because we used to be eachother's best friend, but now we're more physical lovers than anything else.
So I asked him if he was willing to work on the friends part of our relationship and he said "sure, I don't care." I agreed to lay of the "L-word" for a while and that we should just talk like friends everyday in stead of ating like lovers.
My only problem is, he said he doesn't care. I mean, he said he's work on it but in a way that makes me think he's not gonna work on it at all.
Is this going to work?
and how do I rebuild a friendship that was lost in a physical relationship?
thanks for the help
~kd;)
I have been dating this guy for nearly a year, and though we are both rather young, we've been pretty serious. Before last weekend it was all kisses and "I love you" 's. Last weekend a jerk that I used to be good friends with told my boyfriend I was cheating on him, which by the by, I was not. :mad: Anyhoo, after that weekend my boyfriend broke up with me, and he said it wasn't because I "cheated" on him, but because of my personality. I begged him for a second chance, however, and he took me back. That weekend we had an amazing time, some of which was sex, but most of which was just laying in each other's arms, watching tv, and talking about how much we love each other. Out of no where this saturday, he told me that I was annoying him, and that he was thinking about breaking up with me again. So I called him hysterially yesterday and told him I couldn't handle him leaving me. He said we would take it one day at a time and see how things went. When i called him today he did not seem happy to hear from me at all. So I started to get angry with him and I started to talk to him about why he was making me mad. He in turn started talking about why I was making him mad.
We came up with this:
He was making me mad because I was trying to be the sweetest, kindest girl in the world to him, buying him gifts all the time and always asking him how he was feeling ect. and he would be completely indifferent. He, in turn, was mad at me because I was being too clingy, and I would get angry way too easily. We determined that I was getting mad because I felt alone and he was getting mad because he felt scared of me getting angry again. We also determined that the reason that we are having this problem is because we used to be eachother's best friend, but now we're more physical lovers than anything else.
So I asked him if he was willing to work on the friends part of our relationship and he said "sure, I don't care." I agreed to lay of the "L-word" for a while and that we should just talk like friends everyday in stead of ating like lovers.
My only problem is, he said he doesn't care. I mean, he said he's work on it but in a way that makes me think he's not gonna work on it at all.
Is this going to work?
and how do I rebuild a friendship that was lost in a physical relationship?
thanks for the help
~kd;)