he won't call me his girlfriend

[geeta]

So, it's not that I am dying for this official girlfriend title. He can call me his monkey *** for all I care it's just that he is so agianst it that it's making me hurt. So this is the story. I'll try to make it short. My best friend/sexual partner/I tell everything to/I am there for him always/we don't see or sleep withother people has made it clear and simple that he does not want a girlfriend although I am everything a "girlfriend" is and he is what a "boyfriend" is to me. We have met eachother's parents, all of our friends see us as a couple, we love each other but he is so against calling me his girlfriend. We are both in our early 20's, but he has already been married, burned and divorced and has a child. I understand why he would be very cautious in who he starts a relationship with, considering all of the people that this would affect in his life. But they all know me, like me, and see us as a couple as well. This is what I do not understand. Our relationship is great, besides the pure and simple fact that he tells me, whenever I bring up the subject, that he never wants a girlfriend ever again in his life. So what am I? Am I being stupid for being so upset about this? Or is he just stringing me along like a stupid person? what so you all think?

[Jody]

It sound like commitment phobia....surf the web there is a lot of info out there about it. my bf was doing the same thing to me. He was ''not wanting to give me gf status in his life'' then he started to be on and off about it then just about a month ago i jumped his *** about it and he is much better about it now although i have not met his family yet but, i'm almost to the point that i don't really care i'm thinking i'm almost 40 what difference does it make. I have known him for over three years and our relationship has been serious for over a year now. he was also burned very very bad x's 2. i'm hoping that he will ask me to marry him in the next few months or so for a summer wedding but we will see. if he don't then i don't know what. you can email me if you want i think we have the same kind of guy here lol lol LEVIGIRL@COMCAST.COM

[Tuxie]

Yeah geeta, I tend to agree with Jody. I sounds like he just doesn't want to make it 'official'. Even though everything else is 'in place', he just seems afraid to commit. And that's a shame for you. You obviously are ready for the relationship to move on. Let us know if we can help... we're good listeners. Best of luck for you.

[Danah Yousuf]

..twice shy kind of situation.

Only time will tell, Jody.