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Hey I'm new here. I'm going through a hard time. I never thought i would join a forum for help. Well here i am. And i need help :( . I'm in love with a girl. My ex gf we have been together for 1 year and 4 months. I love her with all my heart and i would do anything for her. When ever we see each other I love it. We hold hands and have a good time. But she never makes up her mind she always wants me to change things and i understand. I'm a very jealous type of person. And i get mad really fast and freak out on her. Idk what to do part of me wants to let her go and move on to someone that is more like me. The othere part of me cant let her go and just wants to be with her soo bad. I'm stuck in the middel I wish i can just marry this girl Now but im only 18 and she is only 16 and i know its to early. There is so much holding me back. Next year she is going to be a senior and is going to collige and dosnt want any sort of a relationship so in the future its going to end either way (she says she wants to see if its really ment for us to get marryed) And i understand and i would never try to get in between her and school cuz that has to do with her life and i want the best for her. 2 weeks ago she asked for a break not see me and for me not to tex her all the time but just to call her at night. We have a preatty Messed up relationship. Our parents dont want us to tlk and she sent me to jail. Cuz i said "I will kill you if you ever leave" (didnt mean it) PLZ guys help me out my heart is breaking i cant sleep idk what to do.. And also forgive me for the spelling its 2:51 And my eyes are teary and im really tired.

Thanks Andy.

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I forgot to add. That she was my 1st at everything. My 1st love 1st Kiss 1st sex and best of all 1st person i could really ever trust.:(

[Tuxgal]

Umm...wow. Well, first off...tell me you haven't been with her sexually since turning 18 cuz then you really could go to jail and for a long time, for statatory ****. Secondly, threats will get you nowhere but a restraining order. you guys are so young. She's not even an adult yet. You need to try to move on and move forward. Stop chasing after her when she's told you outright she's not wanting a relationship with you. Your so young still, I wouldn't even be thinking about marriage yet. Just get out there and date some, maybe you'll meet a nice girl about your age who actually wants a relationship. I'm not saying it'll be easy, but it'll be for the best. :) Good luck

[audreycsmith]

It is going to be hard with what I am about to tell you, but take it from experience. I have been where you are now. She is your first love, right? She is yours, right? Well if you really care about her, now is the time to do the right thing and let her go. Yes, it hurts. It hurts only because you don't have anyone else and you have been with her for a while. God is great. He has a plan for you. It is not with her right now. You are both young. Let her experience all that is planned out for her in her own world. You have yours to experience in yours.

Have you thought of what your plans are for the next 1-5 years from now? Have you thought about college or a trade school? Your parents need your help. They have been there for you for all of your life? Do you work right now? Well try to make the best of that if that is what you are doing. If you want to meet other people, go to community affairs. Go to the library, go for a walk at the neighboring museums. Even a dating program on the internet may help you out. In fact, we can amuse you when you are bored and going out of your mind. But don't make it hard on her and stop the jealousy thing. All that does is ruin things for you and her. You said she sent you to jail, and that was just on words. Just think what would happen it you were physical with or any of her friends. Get over it, please. You are too young to go to jail and have a record on your back. This whole world is yours if you want it. And, if you are uncomfortable with her wishy washyness, then eventually you would have broken up with her yourself.

Have a great day. acs

[singerlizzy02]

Alright, this girl is 16 years old and believe me, she is going to change her mind about you a million times and you will hate it. She's gonna give you **** and you'll get fed up with it if you don't ease up on the obsession a little bit. As long as you're tagging along, she won't mind pulling the strings. I think you shouldn't make her a priority if you're not one of hers. Young girls suck because they don't know what they want. At the most, be friends. Stop calling her, just so she can call you if she wants to. If she wants to talk to you, and eventually wants to hang out with you more, then that's cool. Hang out with her then and just do friend type things. If you pressure her for more and beg for her, she will not want you. She will try to keep you begging for as long as she can just so she knows she has something to fall back on, and because she likes the feeling of being chased after by someone who won't give up. A man should be strong, not a crying wuss. It's okay to be sad, but be tough about it and don't base your life on one 16 year old girl when you could have 18+ year old women.

[audreycsmith]

You're 18, she is 16. You are not ready for complaints in a relationship. You are still young yourself. Your girlfriend, by what you explained in your post, is wishy-washy. But, she must be telling you things that need to be changed, because she is growing older, and her maturity is setting in. You had your fun in your life with her, but now its time to want more out of it. She is bored, and you put her there, because you don't react to her callings like she would like you to do. You need to hush your anger, or get therapy to figure out how to surpress your moods and actions, so that friction doesn't occur between you and her.

You need to become a challenge, if you wish to keep her. Don't be eager to see her all the time, or talk to her all the time. Falsely tell her you have other plans when she wants you to jump and do something with her. It will hurt you, but you will see a difference in the relationship real fast.

Have a great day, audreycsmith@verizon.net

[Tuxie]

Hiya Andy,

With all due respect.... you sound very unstable to me. I don't think you'd be doing either yourself or your ex gf justice by getting married now. I married the first girl I kissed, first sex with... etc. This IS NOT a reason to get married. I got married when I was 25, she was 22. I think you need to wait a bit, honestly.

I know, this is probably not what you wanted to hear. It's just the way I see it. Take care, what ever you decide to do. Let us know how it goes. :)