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Priincesss
11-02-2006, 12:41 PM
i love my bf. we've been together for almsot 8 months and now and we are best of friends. we've gone through alot together. i tell him everything.. even things you only talk to your girlfriends about and sometimes it just all falls apart. i'm so use to having a best friend at all times but that ended before me and my bf started dating. before which i se to have a fun social life. i use to always go out and party and i was less depressed even if life was overly dramatic. now all i do is wake up to my bfs phone call, he's with mee ANYWHERE i go, after work or school i'm at his house till i practically pass out and decisde i should go home now. i'm getting sick of this.. i'm an extremely social person but because of past experiences i dont trust people to let them into my life. i have masssive stress and BS coming at me from every aspect of my life. i want to have FUN! i'm too youong to be tied up in a "old married couple" relationship. i love my bf but i want to have fun with and without him too. he is BORING. it sounds mean but he is. i've made a huge transformation of him yet still he's not much of a social butterfly or a talker period. he doesnt have a job, i pay for everything and he "treats me like a princess" but i want more to life then this. this a dramatic change in life style for me from being a party girl to a desperate old married couple. he's soo attached even if i ever makee plans to hang out he'll be so negative about it i always end up cancelling my plans.. and i guess people arent the same with me as before because they ALWAYS see me with my bf and think i dont care about the world and i have no life well not a social life i dont. i'm too good of a perrson for this tragedy. i neeed my groove back while still ahving my bf with me.. ANY SUGGESTIONS?? PLEASE HELP :confused:

Jody
11-02-2006, 03:05 PM
What I'm hearing is that

HE IS
Boring, non social, unemployed.

HE SEEMS
controllong, paranoid

and you feel like '' an old married couple''

I'm not sure how old you are but one quick rule of thumb about dating and long term relationships is that.....what ever you don't like about them now will magnify X's 10 after you marry them.

He either needs to meet you half way or you need to move on. I know it hard but, these kinds of guys become possessive and don't want to share you with anyone else. I think your friends are already seeing it

good luck:)