My sisters bf

[lovelovelove]

My sisters boyfriend is a really great guy. They've been together over 3 years and they're planning on getting married eventually. She is currently in her last year of university, and he works full time. They live together. He's really good to her, except when she's sick. She rarely gets sick, but this past time she was so sick she was hospitalized for 2 days and then was on IV meds for 10 after that. He didn't take her there and didn't come to see her. She drove herself. When she got home from the hospital he was there to see her and then after being home only a few hours, he said he was going out with the guys. He's a really nice guy otherwise and treats her really well. He just tends to become a total reject when she gets sick. What do you guys think is up?

[Tuxgal]

I don't know, that is odd. Has she said anything to him about it? Maybe he's one of those people who's just not naturally nuturing. But, maybe if she tells him that it hurts her when he doesn't seem to care when she gets sick. I used to be with someone like that too. When they got sick, the world screeched to a hault and I'd better take care of them. But when I get sick it's like "so what, why aren't things getting done?".

[Tuxie]

I dunno... to me it seems like... if you LOVE someone, truly... you'd want to take care of them. Isn't that the way it's susposed to work?

Love should be supportive, love should lift up and encourage. I want my SO to feel wanted, actually to feel better than they ever have when they're with me. Regardless of sickness or health.

On the other side, I realize that all guys are NOT made the same. Some guys just don't like to mess with 'sicky stuff'. Mebbe he's one of those guys. *shrugs* I completely don't understand what's up with that whole "won't drive her to the hospital or come see her while she's there" scenario. That's just.... wrong.

[mashmac]

strange behavior. she should tell him she is hurt by it. i mean they are getting married so they can talk about anything now. he must have some sort of explanation. perhaps he was in hospital before or similar. not much help i am afraid except that i think i would be hurt, puzzled too if in her scenario.

[aussiecoffee007]

its a judge of character if he never is there for her when she needs him the most. love isnt about being there for only the fun and easy times, its about the difficult ones as well. he doesnt love her in the way he should if they're planning on getting married.

[mashmac]

has she spoken to him about it?:o