Health Issues

[lovelovelove]

I'm somewhat curious as to how you guys would respond to this. It hasn't happened in my relationship, but it has with my parents. What if your spouse/partner started to run into medical problems, such as diabetes, high blood pressure, etc., due to excess weight? What would be your approach to it? My mom was recently told she was very borderline pre-diabetic, along with several other health issues and has worked very hard to lose about 40 pounds and get all of these issues under control. My father meanwhile, has never had any issues with his weight and started calling her fat momma. I hate it, and not only does it hurt me, but I know it hurts her. I think it's his way of trying to encourage her (don't ask me why), but noone likes to be belittled. Any suggestions on a better approach as I'm going to approach my dad about this.

[Jody]

kudos to your mom for losing 40lbs and being diabetic, I am a RN and I work with diabetics everyday and let me tell you it is is a very hard thing to be diabetic and lose wt.

as for your dad not sure how to handel that people don't usually change. my Dad is very disrespectful towards my step mom and he don't care.

[psfrn47]

I would get your Dad in a comfortable talking situation and let him know that what he is saying to your mother is tearing her down instead of building her up. He should praise her every time she is able to a pound and tell her how great she is looking. I had a weight problem and lost 72#. My family kept encouraging me and I kept loosing. Support works wonders!! Would he fell less secure with her if she looses the weight? That is a thought too.