Parents Or Love?

[lovebites]

Many times a situation arises where you have to select between your parents and your love. Sometimes its because of caste or maybe because of financial status. What do you guys think should we obey our parents, forget our love and marry the person selected by them? Or should we do what we want without thinking of their will?

[Tuxgal]

Well, for me, here in America I'm going to be with the one I want to be with regardless of what my parent's think. I feel everyone has the right to be happy. Even if the one you chose turns out to be a mistake, sometimes you just gotta learn these things on your own.

[Tuxie]

Many times a situation arises where you have to select between your parents and your love. Sometimes its because of caste or maybe because of financial status. What do you guys think should we obey our parents, forget our love and marry the person selected by them? Or should we do what we want without thinking of their will?

I know in some countries, it's commonplace to let the parents choose the mate. But c'mon... this is America. Now, I don't think there's anything wrong with getting feedback or advise from parents. Afterall, they've experienced more than we have. But, the final choice should be yours.

[audreycsmith]

You didn't ask to be born did you? You didn't ask for the parents you have, right? You didn't have your parents there with you while you made friends, outside the home, did you? You didn't have your parents there when you found a job, did you? You didn't or don't plan to have your parents there when you find the person that you think you are so in love with that you want to be married to them, right? So to your answer, you make the decision as to whom you wish to marry in the end. They can't make you marry the person that has been chosen by them for you. They may abandon you for a while, but they will get over it, especially when the children come into the world. Tell your parents that they need to understand that love comes from the heart (your heart) and not one that is etched on a piece of paper. Once they are gone to the next world outside of this one, you will be alone, and wouldn't it be nice to know that you are with someone that your heart fell for. Suppose the person that has been chosen for you doesn't treat you right. Would they feel great about that? Write when you can. acs

audreycsmith at verizon dot net

[Tuxie]

*nods* Good points Audrey.... all of them.

[audreycsmith]

I don't know if you received this posting yet from me, but you have to decide which bed you want to lay in. Your parents need to understand that you are your own person. You didn't asks to be born, and your parents didn't sit with you when you played with friends or were in school.

The person they have already selected for you may not be good to you. You have to marry for love, not for the richnesses or family name. Do you understand this?

Sincerely,

Audrey C. Smith

[DIANACARL02]

I know this situation well.
I fell in love with this boy in highschool and knew he was THE ONE.
I am a only child and the oldest grandbaby.
I had a very hard time getting my mom to understand that I was not abandoning her to go away forever.
I met David when I was 15 and feel instantly.
I was the typical crazy teen.
I would run away or steaL moms car to go see him.
I would do whatever it took, even walk for hours to go be with him.
To this day even now that he is my hubby, she still does not like him and he actually dont like her any better.
We have been together for 13 years, so they tolerate each other for me.:D