How to help a friend?

[spunky]

my friend and her boyfriend broke up a couple of months ago, they were together for 2 years and everyone thought they were great together. the thing is, she hasnt been happy since they broke up, she doesnt even seem like the same person, I have tried to support her in every way I can, but she never seems to feel better or be happy anymore.

[Tuxgal]

Well, the situation may be resolved by now but in case it's not here's my thoughts. It may take a while for her. My love and I were once apart for 3 months and I never stopped hurting, I never stopped missing him. That is not to say she will be like this forever. I imagine, had we not gotten back together I would've had to move on eventually. Your friend will too. Get her out of the house, do things together. She may protest at first but it is truly for the best. It will take time but it will get better. Good luck to you both. You seem like a good friend.

[aussiecoffee007]

its strange because as i read your post, that sounds just like me--my boyfriend adn i just split after 2 years as well. i think we do change, in a way, you get more guarded and less free-spirited, and its hard to get over someone that youre so attached to in every way. but i think you need to show her you care about her--to emphasize, she is still worth someone deeply caring about her--by taking her out to places SHE likes to go, wanting to do things for her, just being there for her even if she doesnt want to talk. honestly, ive grown closer to people by just sitting there in silence than others who i chat with for hours. i think the most you can do is just be there for her--because trust me, we need it. even if we dont show it.