Not sure what to think!!!

[psfrn47]

I have a problem which I hope someone can discuss with me. Before I met my boyfriend he had been communicating to women in Russia and set up a trip to meet them before we met. He now says that he loves me, but he is still leaving tonight for Europe to meet these women and one in particular. He said he had it planned long before we met and he doesn't want to disappoint these women. He also says that they are staying in separate rooms at the hotel. Should I believe him when he says he really cares and wants a life with me? I just feel that if that was the case, he would have cancelled his trip. Am I being overly sensitive?

[BBArmygf]

i dont think your being over sensitive at all. If it was me in your situation i would tell him that If he really cared about you he would tell these women that hes with you and loves you and that it wouldnt be right for him to go see them even if its not with bad intentions. Theres only one reason i can think of for a guy to fly all the way to Europe to see russian women. If he really does love you he would stay home with you.

[darkdreams]

Why would he even want to meet those women, even if het met them before you, if he likes you??? I dnt see a reason for making that trip! To me, its pretty clear that he wants to have a nice time there and then come back and still be having someone waiting for him.
Looks like he is taking you for a ride!

[psfrn47]

Thank you ladies. I believe what you guys said is correct. Although he says he loves me and wants a future, he still went on the trip. I read his e-mails to these women and he told them that he could not wait to meet them, he was hoping for a more permanent relationship, he was missing them, and he may be enticed to stay longer. After all of this, he still professes to love me. We are suppose to go to San Francisco for two weeks after he gets back. We have the flights and hotel booked. I just don't know if the feeling will be the same after this. He called me last night from his hotel room and he still sounds the same, but he still has two more women to meet. He believes we can overcome this. I am just not sure!!!

[like2play]

I dont think this is fair to you for one thing. I also find it very strange that he would still have the desire to meet these woman if he is in love with you. If it were me I would always question in my mind wether or not he had been faithful on this trip.

[spunky]

There is absolutely no way I would stay with him after he went on this trip. If he loves you he would have cancelled that trip, this looks very bad on him, and although he told you about it, it seems like there is something sneaky on his behalf.

[emdar]

This would end the relationship for me as I think he does not respect you or your feelings and that he does not understand his responsibilities in terms of a commitment to you. If he wants a future with you then relationships with other women need to be friendships only and should not involve something like this.

[StuckOnBandaid]

No!! You're being completely rational! What is he thinking? If he wanted a life with you he would NOT be going to Europe. If he doesn't go, he's gonna let these women down? Yeah right. You can do MUCH better than him, and you don't deserve to be walked on. I'd leave him for the Russian ladies.

[psfrn47]

Thank you ladies!! He has called me on the 22nd and said he would call again, but I have not received that call. Now I am worried. He must be having a good time and has forgotten about me. Now I don't know if I should cancel our San Francisco trip. He may cancel it and take a Russian bride who only wants to get to the US and will drop him wants she gets his money, learns our customs, and learns our language.

[Danah Yousuf]

...it's good that he has been upfront with you tell you that he is meeting those women, but why would he go and meet other women if he loves you?