What Should I Do In My Most Of The Time Unhappy Marriage

[audreycsmith]

Dear Forum: I have a situation I have been in for 22 years and it involves my marriage. I have a husband and two young adult girls residing in the home that my husband and his brother own. His brother is legally blind, and resides with his mother. His mother, and her sister, have been a burden in my relationship for 22 years. In fact, I just had an anniversary on Oct. 13th, 2006. Because I don't act like a wall plant, I didn't even receive a "happy anniversary" card from my m-i-l or her sister (which I wouldn't expect), but it would have been nice since I am married to my m-i-l's son, and her sister is his Aunt. I have called the police many times, because their presents most of the time in my home is truly unwelcomed when I feel I just want to be in my marital home with my husband and our children. Am I wrong for doing this. The police situation is a disaster and I am the one that is wrong, according to them. My husband has a colon cancer operation in May, 2006. He isn't working and receives no income. My children and I work and pay for the utilities. My m-i-l has been paying our mortgage since February, 2006. Now she feels she is part owner of our home and my telling her to leave our home isn't working. My children want their grandmother in their life and her sister so they welcome the opportunity to see the grandmother and her two other sisters whenever they can get the opportunity. It is hard on my husband to weigh out the situation because it is his mother and his Aunt. The house is not in my name. The car and any savings or checking accounts is in my husband's name only. Do I have any rights to any assets if I were to leave him and move on with my life. The children and my husband don't want me in their lives anymore. I am so sad a lot of times that I leave and don't think about coming back home until I am good and ready. That lasts for a day to 5 days sometimes. I reside in Beltsville, Maryland and I will surely miss our home. I have worked hard to keep it maintained for 22 years now. I work three jobs under the table to help support the family and I am treated like crap because of my big mouth sometimes, most of the time.

Please help me out here. Should I file a complaint to atleast have them not come in the house when I am around? Am I right in doing so? Please respond.

Audrey C. Smith

[Raquel]

Wow that is quite a situation that you are in. I really don't think that there is much you can do about the MIL and the Aunt visiting since they are welcomed by your husband and children. I am not a lawyer but I do belive that you are entitled to half of all of the marital assets no matter who's name they are in. I think that if you are truly this unhappy that you need to go and at least talk to a lawyer and find out your rights. And if councelling is an option maybe give it a try before you call it quits. Best of Luck to you!

[audreycsmith]

I guess you are right in what you are saying, but why would my mil and aunt have rights to anything in our household? They have forced their way into our marriage since our wedding day even when I protested. Where are my marital rights? I guess I should seek counseling and/or legal aid assistance. Thanks for the response. Audrey C. Smith

[like2play]

I would say that you have the right to tell them not to come over, but since it causes problems with your husband and children I can see where that makes it difficult. I think you should seek legal advice about your rights if you leave, you sound so unhappy and life is to short to live it being sad.