Online dating does this really works?

[Davey Crockett]

Should you go online dating? Why not? That is the answer for many of you who are undecided and unsure of Internet dating. There are many reasons for doing so, and by being a member of online dating services, you are expanding your social circle and raising your hopes to find your perfect match.

Online dating services have grown by leaps and bounds over the years. Most singles have become members of such online dating sites, with high success rates.

Here are some reasons why online dating is perfectly right and safe for you.

It is fun!

In case you did not know or haven't heard yet, online dating is the most prominent way of meeting attractive and fun people all over the world. It is safe, easy, and a fun way of meeting and connecting with many great people. Every month, millions of singles all over the world are available for instant communication, with hundreds of thousands signing up as new members.

There are many benefits of online dating.

The benefits of online dating are absolutely endless. For example, most dating services in the Internet have millions of members, mostly active ones that are just waiting to communication with somebody like you for friendship, lunch or dinner dates, and possibly even more. The odds of finding a special mate in these online dating services are very high since these singles intend to meet someone like you. Imagine the millions of potential mates in online dating sites!

The icing on the cake is that most online dating sites offer easy access to a wide variety of people, with their photos, audio and video clips available in an instant. It's like meeting somebody new at the click of a mouse button right in your own home.

Internet Dating is Easy.

Online dating sites have hundreds of millions of members. So, for example, if you don't want somebody because his or her profile doesn't match yours or it doesn't interest you, you can easily move on to another profile. Most, if not all, online dating sites also have features that enable you to state what you look for in a partner...you're likes, dislikes, hobbies, etc. Submit them to the online dating site where you are a member, then just wait for emails coming from the online dating services informing you of their latest possible matches for you! It's that easy! You don't have to go to the site every day just to check who's "right" for you.

If somebody piques your interest, you can send them an instant message or an email. And hopefully, they will do the same. From there, you can take the contact to the next level. It is that fast and easy!

Okay, you say, online dating gives you more pros than cons. But, how do you choose from the various online sites out there? Here are some factors that you should consider.

1. Do some budgeting.

Determine how much of your money do you want to be used for online dating. Do a budget. Some internet sites require you to pay one-time fees, while some ask for monthly membership fees.

2. Seek recommendations.

You could ask friends or colleagues who have become acquainted with some online dating sites for their tips in looking for a good dating site. They can give additional information not available from Internet dating sites.

3. Check available sites.

Check the Internet for possible information for dating websites. Try to see what sites are the most popular or least visited.

4. Consider specialized sites.

There are also specialized dating sites available. Some are for seniors, some for homosexuals and some are for different religious affiliations among others.

5. Weigh the cons and pros.

From the online sites that you have checked, select only the top three and compare their advantages and disadvantages with the rest. Factors to be considered are the site's success rate, number of members, features and fees, among others things.

Dating has never been this much fun. Whether it is for friendship or a long-term romantic relationship (even marriage), online dating sites can be very useful and fun.

[c_thina00]

Yeah I think online dating is fun! But I'd never experienced it yet, Just figuring out how it goes nicely? I think full conversations are required and cam to cam, so you might see each other!

[typingdancingqueen]

It may be alright to talk on messenger or email or in forums to others that one has not met, but I do not think at all that it is the right place to meet that Mrs. Right or Mr. Right, or the person that you may have children with. I think that sort of dating online would be very risky, as people may not be telling the truth at all and then what a let down when you got to meet them and how could you get away from them then?

We used to do the penpal thing years ago, that was fun. Write to others from other areas, find ads in the paper and write to them, pick from what ones there to write to and hope that some would write you back. Even that one had to pay a few bucks to reply and have your letter forwarded to the person. And then you have a friend maybe if they write you, and then you two write for awhile (and who knows how many others they are also writing).

[aqua]

I always wonder whether the profiles shown in this sort of site, are they really of single looking for peoples or other wise just profiles created to make money.
Share success and horror stories .

[sassybritches72]

I always wondered the same thing, and I dont think that everyone on these sites are honest and sincere, but some are. I know someone that met a man thru an online dating site, and they have been seeing each other for about 3 years now, and recently became engaged.

[Jody]

I think you can meet some nice people on line i met my boyfriend on Match.com about 3.5 years ago however thats was when online dating really started to take off and people were more honest. things have changed since then, we were broke up for awhile in between the 3.5 yrs. there is a lot of people that are married saying that they are not and a lot more wanting just one night stands so just be careful and really read the profile. and do a free basic criminal investigation as i dated one that stold my car and money form my home. he seemed very nice and i knew him for a while but apparently had a drug addiction that he didn't bother to put in his profile.(who would) and was obviously looking for drugs.

[psfrn47]

I met a wonderful man online (e-harmony)and fell deeply in love with him. We are so much alike that it is scary. He had a trip planned to Russia to meet three other women before we met and he went ahead on his trip to meet them. He is still there (4 more days), but called me to say that I was still in his heart. I hope it turns into a long lasting relationship, but for now, it is working. So yes, you can meet a great person. You must, although, be VERY selective, and if there is just one tiny red flag--pass on that person. It may take some looking, but he is there.

[Tuxie]

Tuxgal and I met through a forum similar to this one... online. Eventually, we met in person... and the rest is history. hehe. We've known each other almost a year and a half now. :D

[Tuxgal]

hehe Yep. Though, I don't put much stock in online dating sites, it just takes away that natural "magic". Where two people just happen to meet through something they have in common, and develop a relationship from there. It can work for some though. Like tuxguy said...we met in a relationship forum. We both went there seeking advice on relationships that were ending. From the ruins of those relationships, came this wonderful one. Almost a year and half later, I'm still crazy about him. :)

[Danah Yousuf]

I have used dating sites on and off for two years and honestly-speaking, I'm tired of online dating and willing to try new ideas.

[psfrn47]

The wonderful man I talked about on my earlier post is now gone. He had gone to Russia to meet a woman and was seeing others in the states. So my opinion about online dating has taken a dramatic turn. Some men want the service to do nothing more than stalk pile a group of women for a fun time --- all the time.

[Tuxie]

We are so sorry psfrn47. If there's anything we can do to help, let us know... we're here to help.

[onthink]

I met my husband online, he is a very good man.

[vinmann]

It really works if you have the patience to find yur mate. Choose the best dating site that meets your expectation.

[Edwards]

I think the major problem with online dating sites is that you have to fit a specific profile and you are automatically filtered if you don't fit into that ideal. That doesn't take into account that not everyone you end up having a relationship with in real life is an "ideal" match through random hobbies or physical attributes. ****, I can only name a small handful of times where i've matched up with someone that well and they were both short lived relationships.

The other problem is that online dating sites (in the U.S. at least) are tremendously biased against Asian males in general

[ElegantFaith]

Does anyone think that online dating is like shopping? You pick out a person based on what they're "selling" you, if you see my parallel. I'm not saying it's totally wrong and anyone that met their soul mate on okcupid should return them, I just can't join a dating site because it's like I'm selling myself. It makes me feel dirty...

[The jatsman]

Dating sites are fine, just be sensible, just don't go on the forums, repost from elsewhere, just sharing.....

The dating site, I remember the good old days when I just used to get pleasant dates, and then I went on to the forum, what an eye opener, and then the trolls contacting me one by one, before I even knew what a troll was, it was like "fresh meat", be in my gang, help me spread gossip please, trying to decipher who is who, who is real, who is not, it's an absolute minefield, the die hards who have been on there for years and years, the fights the spats and the jealousies, he's shagged her, she's shagged him, the ones who are in the lunatic bin, just impossible to stay nice, polite and courteous, try as you might, you are in the web, I'm here to date, to have a laugh, not be part of your ongoing car crash, oh the days, of you seem real, let's meet, instead of log on and be, suspect.

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[dawningstar]

I think there are several problems with online dating.... The main one being honesty, I just came on the internet back in 2007, I was really scared and yet I wanted to reach out to people who like me had been waylaid from the workforce and thus getting out of touch with people in general...

The site I ended up on was full of people of all ages, and a lot not all were there for fun, at the expense of others.... they made multiple multis' and dubbed a lot of people including me... being in the field of social services, law & security, and photo-journalism, some I saw through quickly, some it too the cold hard truths and meeting them face to face to realize how much I had been dubbed.... Some played so innocent that I felt sorry for them and wanted to help, opening up my home and everything including my heart.... the home was easier to lock..... since then I opened my own forums and I take a lot of what people say with a grain of salt.... but, I don't think I would ever look for a mate on line.... not just because of the bad experience I had but because the dating sites do try to go through what you are and match you with someone of the same so called interests..... but, then maybe the potential soulmate could be the one they say isn't right for you lol..... after all I think of my man, when I first saw him I had no interest, but he persisted almost scaring me away, but then I saw the man within and I am so grateful he didn't give up on me.... so, I don't think anyone especially a stranger could find your soulmate.... those of you who have had a blind date that went south can attest to that fact, wasn't it a friend who thought they found a perfect mate for you just totally wrong lol....

[jaxky]

no.1 rule in online dating: keep your personal information for yourself and never share it, not until you really really know the person..

the rest in the same like in physical world, you need the chemistry and feelings to make it work in dating,

online dating is the same as meeting someone at the cafe, or book store, or library, or party, it's only make things easier..

[helenkz]

haha talk about personal information... yes i know instances where there was serious breach of privacy and trust. therein lies the peril of internet dating. theoretically you should be sincere and honest in relationships and in the process of seeking one, however there are rotten apples who made this impossible. the rotten apples don't even have the courtesy to admit, apologise and rectify.

just have to have better luck in the future.

[annarose]

I think you must be very lucky to find your next relationship otherwise you shouldn´t be disappointed when the boys or the girls seems to be totally different in reality as they ve been on their profiles.

[LonelyTony84]

I was always sceptical about online dating sites. There are too many fraud and hoax sites where you talk to robots instead of real people.

[**Sapphire**]

I was always sceptical about online dating sites. There are too many fraud and hoax sites where you talk to robots instead of real people.

Yeah good point LonelyTony. BTW...welcome to ATLF! :hello:

[babesbillionaires]

I thing it can be done.:idea:

[Desert Rose]

I have signed up in some of those online dating sites, but they ONLY match me with men from my country!.. :dontknow:

[datingjoe]

It is definitely worth a try, you wont mind missing a few as you can always find a lot of options!

DON’T ADD SPAM TO THE FORUMS!

[**Sapphire**]

It is definitely worth a try, you wont mind missing a few as you can always find a lot of options!

DON’T ADD SPAM TO THE FORUMS!

Don't worry, we take as much spam off the forums as we can, thank you.:thumb:

[Camjohnson]

I met a good, great, loving man online and we're happily engaged<3

[rooneyneville]

It's so big, like an article sounds like you've just opened online dating community, some tricks of this trade makes sense, but as always, wrong people can't make use of them

[SacredLove]

For so many lovers, online dating is the portal where they really found their soulmates. There were so many testimonials for online dating success.

To really attain online dating success, you have to consider being wise. Firstly, keep your full information to yourself (especially address, phone number and whereabouts) and not to reveal them until you really know the other person. Secondly, you really have to converse and see the other person in a webcam to get to know him or her more personally. Lastly, be careful when you need to see the other person in an eyeball.

Have fun in an online dating site.

Cheers!