is it suppose to mean something?

[babylove621]

i have a question that i want everyones opinion on. ok so do you think that its suppose to be a sign or mean something when after being broken up for almost 5 months and trying to date different people, both people admit to not being over each other and still want each other to be a part of one anothers lives?

Tell me what ya think!
Thanks! :)

[lilcupid]

To me it means you should give it another go...if thats what you both want. My parents broke up while dating for a few months and both missed each other quite a lot during this time. Dad rang her out of the blue to officially say goodbye I guess you could say and during their farewells both realised they loved and missed one another. 34 years later they are still happily married :)

[Pink]

I think it just means you both still care about one another which is okay. If you can be friends with each other then more power to ya! :) It's great that you can communicate with each other. Personally, there's no way I could be friends with my SO if we broke up. It would hurt too much.

[**Sapphire**]

It could mean that you both should give it another go. Most important though is you 2 should talk in a bit more detail in regards to your feelings. Not only that, talk about what broke you both apart in the first place. Air all that out & then see where you both feel & where you both would like to go from there.

[stoner]

Well it does make sense to have two people still have feelings for each other, even though they're no longer a part of one another. As Pink just mentioned, if it works for two people to still be friends and care for one another, then more power to ya. If I were on the receiving end of such a proposal, however, I'm not going to buy it. I would much rather prefer to be miles away and out of reach once the relationship is over ... I also find it much easier to move on and start all over. :)

Besides ... I still will never understand how NYC can be such a BIG place to feel very lonely. :confused:

[MaskOfVirtue]

Like every one has said, both people still probably have feelings for each other. If it ended mutually, give it another go :) Or if the feelings aren't at all more than friendly, then just try hanging out more and being together, without all the emotional baggage of a relationship.
Trying a failed relationship again worked for me, and is still working :) So it could work for someone else.

[T12am]

To me it means you should give it another go...if thats what you both want. My parents broke up while dating for a few months and both missed each other quite a lot during this time. Dad rang her out of the blue to officially say goodbye I guess you could say and during their farewells both realised they loved and missed one another. 34 years later they are still happily married :)

That's sweet :)

I would talk it out and see.. sometimes it takes separation to realize..

[daisychip]

I think it's kind of a sign that means the relationship wasn't in the place it needed to be when you were together. Some kind of maturity wasn't there to handle the problem(s) that broke it up. The feelings weren't really gone, there just wasn't an apparent answer to fix what was happening. Does that make sense?

Wanting to be with s/o isn't always enough. Both being able to realise, admit and grow together from the mistakes made is the real sign. IMO. As Sapphire said..........airing things out and coming to common understanding. Then decide.

[babylove621]

well we had a long talk last night, and we realize, no matter what happens in our lives it always ends up with me and him. we feel like everything points to us being back together. so we slept on it all and were going to talk some more later on today. i think i really do want to be back with him.

[lilcupid]

You do what's right for you. If thats what you want sweetie, go for it. And as the Jedi's lol in Star Wars say "May the force be with you!" :P

[**Sapphire**]

Good, I hope that if you 2 do decide to get back together it all works out much better this time. Best of luck to you both! :)

[~Teej~]

How did it go babylove???Make sure you come back and let us know won't you :)

[babylove621]

as of right now things aren't going well i don't know, im so confused. it almost feels like him breaking my heart all over again, last night everything just felt so perfect and now i don't know anymore, im really hurt.

[lilcupid]

What happened??

[Tony]

that is sad that you feel hurt right now babylove621
when you feel the time is right and you would like to share with us please do so as we are all here to help you

[stoner]

I'm sorry that things did not seem to work out between you and your partner. Perhaps, taking some time off from this might be ideal? I understand it's not the answer that most of us seek, but it sure is one way to put us on a mend and get our mind off all the confusion, frustration, hurt, anxiety and all things negative about our troubled relationships.

In the meantime, it's time to start taking care of "numero uno." As I had previously mentioned, New York is such a big place for someone to feel lonely, and there's always something going on all the time (well, almost always). Find something that will reignite your interests, and start putting yourself on a mend. I know that's exactly what I would do (especially *if* I'm a few years younger than I am today, and living a bachelor's life).

Allow time to be on your side, and not against it. Relationships is all about taking chances and finding out if the person is the right one for you or not. If it's the perfect match, then great. Otherwise, we move on, put ourselves on a mend and then start over. Getting into a relationship is also about feeling love and giving love ... if those elements are not there and leading only to further hurt and confusion, then it's time to reconsider. As per your post, if you've been hurt on an on-going basis, then this person is not the right one for you? :confused:

Hang in there and good luck.

[daisychip]

It's hard to explain some things when you're in the confused and hurt mode isn't it? I have been there too. Want s/o to be able to help but don't know how to explain the whole thing or have the energy to do it.

I'm just having a hard time understanding why after the almost perfect night, that you feel it's 'like him hurting you again'? Is there some specific thing he said or did that makes you question again? I know sometimes it's not even easy to put your finger on that so just know we are here to help any way we can.

[**Sapphire**]

I'm sorry to hear that you are feeling badly at the moment. Whenever you feel like it, please come on back & share with us hun. We are all here to help you. :)

[babylove621]

i guess in a way i feel like he used me and led me on (he admits to it & told me not to blame myself), i know he didn't mean to do it on purpose but it still hurts, especially after everything he said to me the other night, i know we weren't back together but it felt like we were on track to and now i'm not sure, the other night I know we said that even if we are meant to be together, maybe its just not the right time. We still haven't really talked, he texted me last night and said he promises hes not blowing me off, hes just busy with work but we will definitely talk. So we'll see after that.

[**Sapphire**]

So your saying that even though he said he would like to get back together or showed signs of wanting that to happen, he really didn't want to?

How could he even do that, knowing how you still feel about him?

If I'm right what I read of your post & also what I asked you. I have 1 big question for you hun.

Do you really want to have him in you life knowing now he plays those kinds of mean head games?

Something to think about babylove hun...

[Tony]

I think Sapphire has a valid question there babylove
I honestly think he is playing head games with you
I find that very sad when a man does that sort of thing to a Lady

[daisychip]

He didn't mean to but did anyway. If he doesn't really want to be together then why is he texting you now saying that you will "definitely talk"? :confused: now he doesn't know if he wants to be together? the other night he didn't but said things making you think he did................what makes you think it will be anything different?

At the very least..............he is just not capable of making a real commitment to you right now (sewing oats and all that)......but...........at the most and worst................he's reading you like a book and going to just keep toying with you until you're so humiliated you can't take it anymore. MAYBE it's something in between but.................

I don't know him and your relationship so I'll leave that for you to decide babylove but please don't try to keep hoping if there isn't anything tangible to hang onto.

[babylove621]

Well we did talk last night and we aren't going to be together right now, we worked out stuff and now everything is out in the open, we are going to stay close friends as we both do still mean a lot to each other. We do still believe that we do have some kind of connection. I'm actually ok with the way things are right now, i have one of my best friends back and thats a good feeling. Thanks everyone, i'll keep ou posted on whats going on!!!! xoxoxox

[**Sapphire**]

Good that you got things worked out & you 2 are going to be friends babylove!

[daisychip]

I'm glad the two of you worked out a 'solid' answer and there doesn't have to be anymore confusion or heartache right now. Also that you can be comfortable with the decision to just be friends. I don't wish to do that with any ex, it baffles me but if it works for you, I'm very happy for it.

[babylove621]

i think if it was any other guy, i dont think that i could be friends with him after a relationship but with him its easy, hes just so easy to talk and we "get" each other. We've actually been a lot of help to each other with problems with the girl hes dating and the guy i'm dating, since we know each other so well its easy to tell each other what to do, i kind of like it. i've heard that the only two ways you can be friends with an ex is if you still have feelings for each other or if you were never really in love at all. I know there are some feelings still there but i know im not in love with him like that right now, i'll always love him though. My friend keeps telling me that you can't run away from true love and thats why we are the way we are right now. im not sure maybe we will be together again in the future, but i dont want to think about the future right now, were still young, i want to focus on what feels right now, if that makes any sense at all lol

[~Teej~]

It makes perfect sense to me and I am glad that you have found a way to be happy in all this mess...I hope that being friends is enough for you...But from what you typed above I think that you will be okay :)

[**Sapphire**]

Good for you babylove! Best of luck to you!

Make sure you come on back & chat with us whenever you can/want to! :)

[T12am]

Sorry, but sex is what came to mind when I read this. Be careful and don't get intimate with him. I apologize if this offends you but that's how I am taking it. Once something is broken then it is hard to piece it altogether without the cracks.

You both may have not gotten over each other and it's obvious you feel for him but why did you guys separate in the first place? Believing in fate and destiny is good but you both need to want to be together in order for anything positive to start to happen.

Good luck..