Ladies is this normal???

[RuinedPuzzle]

Here this one goes. I found out my gf is telling her friends how cute she thinks this one guy is and then tried to hide it from me(because it would mak any guy mad). Is it normal......Am I making a big deal out of nothing?

o and also she seems to bring up that subject a lot about cute guys. the other day she out of the blue said how she didnt think this one guy was real cute and im sitting there with her. and she sad somethin else about some guy at the mall caught the eye of her friends. she never talks about this kinda stuff.

[~Teej~]

It doesn't mean anything if she says a guy is cute....just because you are with someone it doesn't mean you stop thinking that other people are attractive..

She is happy with you, this is normal and you don't have anything to worry about...It's when she does something about it you should have cause for concern...

Everyone looks and it's naive to think they don't..be relaxed and tell her when you think other girls are cute and see how she reacts..hopefully then you can see that it's normal

[aussiecoffee007]

i think its pretty normal, i mean, sometimes girls want to incite jealousy from you and everything... sometimes its fun for us to get guys worked up and feel protected from jealousy... so perhaps that is playing a part in it.

[mostwar]

feel protected from jealousy....
interesting

[**Sapphire**]

I agree with the ladies before me, but to a point. I think if she is doing it alot, you may want to have a little talk with her about it. I have said things similar to that to my fiance, but I don't do it all the time. He has said it back to me about a woman that he may find attractive, but again he doesn't do it constantly.

If she is talking about other guys a lot then maybe have a chat with her about it. Maybe even tell her how it makes you feel to hear it so much. She may be feeling so comfortable with you that she thinks she can talk about that alot & it won't bother you.

[Pink]

^ Agreed. I personally don't mind it occasionally. I think it's okay and I don't get jealous, but there's a line that he, my boyfriend, doesn't cross. If it bothers you just let her know. :)

[RuinedPuzzle]

it doesnt really bother me if she can acknowledge "hey he is cute" but when she gets excited about it and tells her friends then it bothers me.

[**Sapphire**]

Then you need to have a talk with her about how you feel when she gets that way RuinedPuzzle. She needs to know that so she can stop the added extras of getting excited about a good looking guy around you & also telling her friends.

[TreeofSephri]

I personally think she is testing you to see how you react. Women will constantly give you test just to see what pushes your buttons. I would not take it seriously. Just show her that you are secure and that you trust her.

[hamster]

I agree with all the rest, she must be comfortable with you

[T12am]

If the person you are with does not show any signs of jealousy... is that normal? Of course given the circumstances but if you were in that predicament.. and your counterpart shows no signs of concern or jealousy. how would you feel? And.. if you do feel jealous, would you voice it?

Personally, I talk and/or compliment guys but not all the time. My husband does so as well but it's not too constant whereas I would feel the hit to my self-esteem.

I like it when guys show their jealous side. I like it when they talk about it so a solution can arise..

[daisychip]

Women will constantly give you test just to see what pushes your buttons.

Not all women have to resort to such games Tree. Sorry that you have had such bad experiences.

From what you posted RuinedPuzzle.........what your gf is doing is rude. It sounds excessive and I'm with those who say talk with her.

[aussiecoffee007]

if its excessive, i do agree with daisychip thats not quite acceptable in the least... if its the occasional thing to sort of tease you, its just that sort of jealousy-inducing game women are prone to playing