somebody please help me

[fromtha305]

this girl and i got into a serious relationship but it didn't last as long as most since she wanted to put things on hold and establish a friendship before moving into a relationship... i'm perfectly fine with it and i'm patient and willing to be just friends... but i feel like i'm slowly but surely becoming less important to her... and sometimes i feel like she's avoiding me but then again i could just be jumping to conclusions... i've kept in contact with her frequently and spent time with her recently... i'm not sure what i'm supposed to do from this position because i feel like she doesn't look at our relationship as something significant even tho she told me she does and she also told me that no one cud ever take my place... i don't know what to do or how to feel

[COLMCGIN]

Tell her your feelings about her pulling away. Tell her how you feel about it. It sounds to me like she was trying to let you down easy. I have done this with guys before. It is a really crappy thing to do to someone and now that I am older I realize this but like i said it almost sounds like that is what is going on. I have used the "friends" line before...Good luck and remember to ask but don't be too pushy

[Lewski711]

It does sound as though maybe she's trying to give you some signals as to how she is feeling, without having to say the words themselves. I could be wrong, but if she is interested in you romantically, she'd be paying more attention to you. It's obvious that she does care for you in some way, because she's trying to avoid causing you pain.

On the other hand, if she really is just waiting to build a string friendship foundation first, go with it. Try to focus on the friendship thing. I know it's easier said than done, but try putting romance out of your mind for a bit. Then, focus on being a real friend to her, not just one with the hopes of more later. orst case scenario: you've got a geat friend. Best case scenario: she wasn't yanking your chain, and she'll be ready to have a relationship with you... one with a very strongest foundation in friendship.

[darkdreams]

You have to read her actions and behaviours, they could mean a lot. I guess, she is only being nice to you, in case she doesnt reciprocate the feelings that you feel for her, then you wont be that much hurt. I dnt think that this will lead anywhere. trying to pressure her will not work, but that doesnt mean you have to wait around while she takes her own sweet time. She maybe playing you, keeping you in line, in case of...!
Better talk it out with her and try to get her to answer you honestly about the relationship between the both of you!