Ways to say "hit the road"

[stoner]

I still have yet to meet a girl who's bold and persistent with her intentions ... but that's about to change. :o

A year ago, I accidentally met one of my ex while taking a walk on the beach. After that accidental meeting, we reconciled our differences and agreed to be friends. We would correspond via e-mails and/or by telephone once in a while, and we'd invite each other in our respective parties and social gatherings.

One evening after a long day from work, she called me to join her for a drink at the lounge halfway between her house and mine. She said that she needed someone to talk to. It was then that she revealed to me that she still has feelings for me. She also claimed how much she envied the life that I have with my wife. That it should have been with her having that good life with me, instead of my wife. I simply replied that it might have been if she didn't dump me then. But it's too late now ... she was never good to me back then, I never give second chances, I had since moved on, and I now belong to the happily married club. I paid the bartender for our tab and left immediately.

I don't think she's getting it ... everytime we correspond, she always drops the hint of when do I plan to split from my wife. And when that time comes, she will be waiting. I had since avoided her and stopped answering her calls, but the phone calls, text messages and e-mails keep on coming.

I'm at the point where I'm beginning to feel irritated. She was never a good partner to me then, so why should I bother with her now? All I want from her is to be left alone. If Paul Simon could sing about "50 ways to leave your lover," I'm sure you guys and gals can have as many possible ways to tell her to hit the high road and leave me in peace.

Your responses will be greatly appreciated. Thanks.

[daisychip]

I would send back to her "1" e-mail saying that you will never respond to her in any way. That you don't read the e-mails, texts and ignore her calls on purpose. That she is trying to make something happen that 'never' will and thought she could be a friend but obviously she can't so there is no more. I would even make it rude and hurtful as she is trying to break-up your marriage. Little scamp!

After that stoner what else can you do but wait for her to get the pic and stop. Eventually they have to give up right? :confused:

[arc]

Talk to her seriously about your feeling to her, Stoner. If she has a little self-esteem, she should know what to do properly. Do not let her mess your life or bring any pain/confusion to your wife. You might act bit bad to her i guess then.

Anyway, i believe one day she must stop before your strong relationship with your wife.

[stoner]

Thanks for the replies. You're both right ... eventually, she'll have to take a step back and stop what she's doing. My wife is aware that she used to be my ex, and had warned me in the past for being too friendly with her. So far, she doesn't know anything about the e-mails and messages. For now, I'm completely ignoring this "scamp." I marked her e-mail as junk/spam, so it automatically gets deleted before it gets into my mailbox. The text messages are also blocked, and as for the voice mail messages, well I have no choice but to listen to the garbage and then immediately erase it.

[**Sapphire**]

You already told her that you are happy with your wife & as for you 2, that ship sailed a LONG time ago. She is not respecting you, your wife & your marriage by continuing to try her best to pursue you & break up your marriage or at the least put a big crimp in it.

Tell her straight up to get lost!

Let her know that if she continues to calls, text, email you, that you will take the matter up with the police as it could be possible harrassment or stalking. You could always change your phone number to totally block her out as you already did that with the emails & text messages. You might even be able to call your phone company & do something about the calls if you don't want to change your number.

[Pink]

I agree with Sapphire. She needs the boot asap! And I'm sure that if your wife found out she'd be ******. That relationship happened in the past and she needs to leave it there. I mean what goes around comes around!

[stoner]

Here's an update on this situation.

No contact basically meant that - no contact. But yesterday, she finally got me ... she had used her friends cell phone, and I stupidly answered it, thinking that it might be that interview that I'd been waiting for.

She begged me to have a talk with her, she promised that she won't do anything malicious or evil. Since I had nothing else to do after dinner, I gave in to see her at the lounge that we frequented in the past, and was surprised that she kept true to her word. She claimed that when we reconciled, she felt great knowing that she had regained the friend that she thought had long disappeared. She thought that she was just playing with her head when her past feelings for me came around again, but dismissed them as being foolish. But the more she interacted with me, the stronger they got, and that's when I bluntly told her that she couldn't get any further than that -- she had her chance, but she blew it.

It's sad to know that some people, I guess, will never change. She was a pretty woman back in the day, and she is to this day. But she has a plethora of self-centered, emotional and mental issues that makes her the opposite of her outward appearance. She also had quite a temper that the littlest things could easily upset her. There was an incident where she was busy shopping for a blouse in the mall, but I needed to use the restroom, so I told her where I was going. Unfortunately, she was not listening so she got furious over my "sudden" disappearance, and paged me to meet her at the customer service booth. Needless to say, she was one FINE (F***ed up, Insecure, Neurotic, Emotional) woman alright.

Back in the day, she would be all hugs and kisses and then hours later, she was completely different person where she would tell me to back off and leave her alone. And then that same night, she would be crying on the phone asking me to come over, we would make out, and everything would be alright again. The next day, however, history repeated itself again. I really felt a big sigh of relief when she broke up with me for - you wouldn't believe this - a "gentleman" from the U.K. that she met on line.

Back to the topic, we left in peaceful terms, and I advised her to contend with her own demons that is fueling all this mixed feelings and emotions surrounding her. Otherwise, consider last night's meeting to be our last, and she agreed.

[daisychip]

Well I'm glad to hear that she agreed so lets hope she holds true to her word. She sounds like she's bi-polar so god knows what might happen next. I say that jokingly but if she really is then it's not funny. Hopefully, since "back in the day"...........she has changed and grown up a little.

[**Sapphire**]

I do hope too that she will leave you be. Life is hard enough sometimes to have someone that seems to be extremely unstable complicate it further.

[stoner]

Well I'm glad to hear that she agreed so lets hope she holds true to her word. She sounds like she's bi-polar so god knows what might happen next. I say that jokingly but if she really is then it's not funny. Hopefully, since "back in the day"...........she has changed and grown up a little.

That's what I suspected as well. For a while there, she was seeing a therapist for her issues, but I really don't have a clue with regards to the extent of the counseling/treatment that she received. I am also aware that I wasn't the only one who found her to be a tough person to contend with, as there was one other guy after me who just walked out on her. For reasons other than what I mentioned, well, that's the million dollar question.

Other than that, I'm just glad it's really over and done with. :cool:

[hihihihi]

talk to her and see what happens