confused

[anto1982]

Hey my name is Anthony and I'm new to this forum. I usually dont ask for advice when it comes to this stuff cause I usually just see what happens when it comes to women but this has got be bugging out. I've been working with this woman for almost a year now and I was attracted to her since the first time I saw her but quickly backed off when I found out she had 4 kids. One night I was hanging out with a friend from work and I was drunk and told her I liked the woman from work. She ended up opening her mouth and telling her I found out from someone else I work with. Ever since then she's been flirting with me constanly.I flirt with her sometimes only because she lives with a guy and the 4 kids but she also constantly tells me how much she hates him and she wants to leave him but can't right now because of the kids. We've been hanging out once a week now after work at another friends house because she started inviting me to hang out with them. At first I thought she was flirting with me because she wanted attention but the other day she asked me If i like kids. I told her that I have no experience being around kids because I was an only child. She keeps telling me theres nothing to it and she said that whoever she ends up with wouldnt have to pay for her kids anyway because of child support. Is this girl trying to trap me because she knows I like her and she wants to leave her boyfriend or does she like me?

[Lewski711]

Who knows what her intentions are? The real question is, what are yours? Who cares if she really likes you, is trying to trap you, or is trying to get out of her situation, if you're not ready to commit?

It sounds like you're concerned because she has four chilren and you don't want to get involved with someone with kids. If that's ther case, flirt if you like, but why worry what she's planning if you know you won't be with her?

On the other hand, if you are willing to try and work something out with her and are willing to give the kids a shot, then you do have a bunch of factors to contend with. First, do you want to be "the other guy" in what will look like an affair? Is the man she's with the father of her children? Then, you must look at your original question: does she like you or is she only trying to trap you.

If you want to go for this and you're unsure what her intentions are, then you obviously are not ready to commit fully. When you commit to someone you want full trust between the two of you. You're not there yet. If there's a possibility for this to go somewhere, have her deal with her man first (so you won't look like the cause of the break-up), get to know her kids, and start building trust between you.

[emdar]

Please remember that child support rarely covers everything for the kids. i mean she is still responsible for a big chunk of their support, too. Also, if you have no kids of your own, a built in family with 4 may not be a good place for you. If I was you I would worry about breaking up a family that may just be in a rut or worse, ending up tied to this family and finding out it is not good for you.

[aqua]

First check out if you really like her or its just that attraction. If you really like her then I think kids would be of know big problem. If your feelings are true for her then I think you have to accept her as she is and think of supporting her kids.

[lovely]

Give some time to yourself.Think that whether you really love or not.Remember that after marriage,you have to take responsibility of 4 kids .This is a big responsibility.Sometimes too much responsibility can
cause end of love.