You find they are married

[typingdancingqueen]

What would you do if after quite a few months of talking to a very good friend of yours that you used to talk to quite a bit, but then you had to stop calling them as you could no longer afford the calls for one reason or the other. You really like them, and you miss them dearly... you tried writing but they didn't reply. You sent emails, but they didn't reply. Finally you again get the courage to call, and someone in their family alerts you to the fact that this person is now married. :( :mad:

[SillyLittleBoy]

In a situation like you've described, there really isn't much you can do. If your relationship was always just a friendship and never ventured past that thin gray line, then maybe you could continue to e-mail or write to him via the postal service, but if your hopes were for something more than "just friends," then I would move on... put it behind you... and look towards future possibilities that you maybe missing by holding on to something long gone.

Sorry, sweetie... but I think you were probably hoping for more with this guy and marriage is a definite show stopper in this case.

[Desire]

I agree, although you have fallen for him, there is nothing you can do, try to move on and hopefully you wil find someone who can return the feelings.Dont let this situation bring you down.

[aqua]

Actually I have gone under similar situation : (
We were friends for 6 years and I used to speak with him almost every day he never told me that he got engaged. He changed his mobile no. And after few days when I called him home a girl picked up the phone and told me that she is his wife. I was like dumb struck why should he hide his marriage from me. I never called him back neither he called me? I only care people who cares for me :)

[Raquel]

Well if it is just a friend then I don't see the problem, but if you are romantically interested then you will have to face the fact that you missed the boat on this one and move on. I was actually on the other end of a situation like this and belive me the girl/guy that you missed out on is not goint to give up their marriage for you.

[joel]

Here nothing else can be done other than wishing them good luck in life. You can still be a good friend to both of them, but that depends on the oher person whom your love is married with.

[emdar]

I think you need to swallow hard and realize this was not a relationship that was meant to beand move on. If they were truly just a platonic friend send a belated congrats there way and invite them and their spouse to visit. If more than a platonic friend move on and be happy for them, but keep your distance.

[lovebites]

If I would find that a person with whom I was emotionally involved gets married with someone else, I would accept that fact. I would accept it as there is nothing else I can do over it. But I would definately ask him once that why did he do that. If the reason is valid I wont oppose, I would be happy for him.