What if they're putting pressure on you?

[seoboost]

What do you do if the person is putting pressure on you to do something you are unsure if it is right for you, or unsure if you are ready yet? Perhaps the girl is putting pressure on the man to buy a house. Perhaps the girl wants to have children and the man does not ever want to have kids. Perhaps the man wants to live with the woman, and the girl does not want to live with the person before marriage? What if people in your family are putting pressure on you thinking that it's about time you two get married, and yet you two aren't ready to make the big step yet?

[typingdancingqueen]

Here are some choices on what to do or how to react to this one:

Just do what most people do, freak out and run and hide and hang up the phone and/or break off the relationship tell them no way are you ready for something like that. (Obviously I wouldn't recommend this one).

Oh ya, perhaps you should go put a down payment on that house and make an offer to purchase. Then if the parties accept the offer to purchase, you can go find a lawyer and a title policy and a mortgage lender can offer you a loan to purchase the home. But of course since I really do not have any money and I have bad credit, you'll have to do that on your own... and actually I don't really want to move out of the town that I am living in.

[like2play]

well first of all the two people should know in advance before they become committed to each other if they both want children etc. as far as pressure for other things the two people need to be able to talk and respect each other and each others needs.

[lovelovelove]

typingdancingqueen, I laughed so hard from your first suggestion.:D

I think it's always important to have open communication in a relationship. I would suggest talking about it first. I don't think it's right to put pressure on another person to do something they don't wish to do because it drives them away.

I do think that if one person wants to buy a house for instance, they should go ahead and do it as long as they can afford it on their own. Someone in a relationship should always continue along their path as well.

Now, if you've been together lets say, 10 years, and your partner does not want to commit to anything, I'd be worried. Yeah, they've been around 10 years, but come on...