Dating Other People?

[seoboost]

:confused: What would you do if the person that you have been friends with for a few years and have dated for at least a year, and hoped to marry one day, calls you unexpectedly and asks if they can start dating other people? That you would still be friends, they'd still want to see you as well, but that they also wanted to date other people? Let's say they just met another person at some event and they want to see how it is dating someone else?

[david616098]

I would dump them if they want to play the field then they should do it properly.

[sassybritches72]

I would not continue the relationship with them, because to me if they can't be happy and content dating only one person how will they be happy and content with one person once they are married.

[Gift Guide]

Agree with the above posts. No reason to continue hanging out; there are too many feelings involved and things will get weird.

[oyster]

I would end the relationship. If you dare to shop to compare, out to the curb you go.:p

This tells you that it is not meant to be.

[mashmac]

I am not familiar with the practice of dating. What exactly is it?
Do you date all you life or only when you are younger? Just want to know in case I move to the US! Not that I plan to. It's very unlikely but better safe than sorry.
:confused:

[lisa843]

I guess I look at this differently than some...but I would be thankful that at least they brought it to you and asked instead of just doing it and cheating on you. I would not like to stay in the relationship....never say never...but at least you know... ???:confused: What would you do if the person that you have been friends with for a few years and have dated for at least a year, and hoped to marry one day, calls you unexpectedly and asks if they can start dating other people? That you would still be friends, they'd still want to see you as well, but that they also wanted to date other people? Let's say they just met another person at some event and they want to see how it is dating someone else?

[aussiecoffee007]

mashmac--in america, we date until we get into a relationship, which is the monogamous form of dating. dating means you can see other people and all that (although most people think its considerate to let the people involved you guys are not exclusive) to sort of test the waters... when you decide you dont WANT to date anyone else adn want to be exclusive, you ask that person to be your girlfriend/bf (or it just happens naturally) and then you dont cheat anymore or anything, but generally having sex with two people at the same time period (like dating to that extreme) is considered... scan-da-lous :) sorry its the best explanation i got, let me know if there are any more questions.
i wouldnt break up or anything, but dont put your heart into it as much... keep guarded. you dont want him to rip you to shreds :( but if he keeps wnating to date for a while, i would just leave yoru emotional feelings for him behind ya now, hes not ready for a monogamous relationship.

[mashmac]

That's what I thought. We just kind of get there. Usually if people fancy each other and start seeing each other and get close - it's an unspoken understanding that it's exclusive. Nothing formal about it. Just kind of happens.
Not sure how to explain it.

[~Teej~]

Yeah Mashmac thats the way it is here as well..just kind of seems to happen..you like some one, you go out, have fun and then you are together..The dating thing seems kind of confusing, not really sure if I could handle it.

[aussiecoffee007]

lol yeah the dating is kind of confusing, now that i looked at my post, and i was like MAN. i think id prefer it your way...

[Penguin_Woman]

lol yeah the dating is kind of confusing, now that i looked at my post, and i was like MAN. i think id prefer it your way...
Me three hehe. I'm not really the "dating" type really. :)

[aussiecoffee007]

yeah ive always been a little serious, even for my own good :) relationships wise at least :)

[~Teej~]

It's a good way to be Aussie, at least that way people know where they stand

[aussiecoffee007]

haha yeah people are never confused with that with me, im a very straightforward person, but i think that intimidates some people, that think i am too intense for a relationship :(

[Penguin_Woman]

I had that problem a lot too...until I met Tuxie. :)

[aussiecoffee007]

yeah my boyfriend is probably as/more intense than i am, which is very new for me, but i like it. he can handle it. the only problem is we havent gotten in a fight yet so i dont know if he can handle me when im upset... :confused:

[~Teej~]

Aww I am sure you will be fine....fights don't usually happen that often and when they do they are usually resolved quickly

[aussiecoffee007]

i hope so, but i can be sort of tough to handle during fights and i know that so... :(

[Penguin_Woman]

yeah my boyfriend is probably as/more intense than i am, which is very new for me, but i like it. he can handle it. the only problem is we havent gotten in a fight yet so i dont know if he can handle me when im upset... :confused:
Heh....that is one problem Tuxie and I do not have. lol

[aussiecoffee007]

lol why, cuz you guys are both just so chill when youre in fights? thats a pretty awesome thign to have :)

[Penguin_Woman]

Heh...umm...no. I meant the "not having a fight" thing. :) We've have some knock down drag-outs. (Figuratively speaking) But, in the end we work things out. :)

[aussiecoffee007]

lol yeah same, i get pretty irrational sometimes during fights but i calm down INSTANTLY if someone says the right thing... its like a shallow form of upset... but trouble is guys dont always know what that right thing is lol

[joehash]

Yeah, I agree with everyone else who posted. Wanting to date other people and not being clear about being friends- just avoid this. It's really really hard to go back to the way things were before being in a relationship, and usually it's not worth the effort.