i get hurt so much!

[jimbo666]

hmmm been a long time since i been on here so most of you prolly wont know me. anyway, this last month i met such a wonderful girl. the kind that sticks way out and you think could very easily be the one....ya know what i mean? ok well i've known her for like 2 years and she was married and i was always very nice to her etc. well she got divorced about 8 months ago and i've been so sweet and nice to her and flirted with her and done all the lil techniques to make a girl like you and well.....she didnt like me. she acted soooo excited to see me every time i ran into her and i never talked to her much cuz i didnt want to get stuck as a friend. i dont know why she doesnt like me. she's such a wonderful girl and it hurts me so much she rejected me. she's looking for a guy just like me but i'm not good enough. i've never tried so hard for a girl in my life.....she completely crushed me. i just dont get it. i try so hard for girls and i'm never good enough for them.....why? months i tried and she meets some dude that isnt gonna treat her good at all one day and hooks up with him. this sounds so conceited but i see so many girls with goofy guys that dont treat them all that great and they pass me up. its so confusing cuz all my female friends (and male friends) tell me how wonderful of a guy i am and i deserve a wonderful girl so much.....so why dont i get any girl??? i'm 22 and still never dated a girl....not even once! people just tell me to be patient but it hurts me so much. no one understands how much it hurts to be alone that long and be rejected so much.....especially when you do everything perfect. i'm sorry i'm a lil drunk and extremely sad and hurt tonight cuz today was the day she shut me down.

[DIANACARL02]

If you have done all those thing to let her know your feelings and she still is not intrested then, she does not deserve you.
She Seems like she just used you as a sholder to lean on till she was free of her husband and now she dont need you no more.
It would probably be better to move on to a brighter and better life.
You will find that one girl out there who will see just how great you are and just want to be with you.:)

[stoner]

I'm sorry about the hurt that you feel. I agree with DIANACARLO2's post ... she doesn't deserve to be with you. Just be patient and always look on the bright side ... the girl who will love you dearly will come alone when you least expect it.

Heck, I was 22 when I thought I had found the woman of my dreams and was ready to settle down, but it would be the complete opposite of it one year later when she broke my heart. After that, I found myself in a rollercoaster of relationships that came and went, partly due to their insincerity and my unwillingness to let go of the past. Once I finally managed to say goodbye to my painful pasts, love found me.

Just hang in there and move on ... the one you're looking for just may be waiting for you at the other end of the bridge. Good luck.

[~Teej~]

You are only 22 so you are still young..you will meet someone deserving of you but this is not the woman..you sound like you deserve someone nice and you will find her...I know it seems unlikely at the mo as you are feeling so low..Maybe you are trying to hard???I don't know.


I have realised though that you usually meet someoen when you aren't even looking for them..So that has to mean something.

[jimbo666]

teej....i'm only 22??? whew...i dunno why lil things like that upset me so much. teej your right i am still young....but i'm not asking for my wife right this moment. also....i AM 22. think about when you and everyone else were in school....middle school or junior high....you started dating....hanging out with opposite sex having fun...kissing...cudding....having someone to be around and care for....then you got into high school and prolly fell in love at least once.....and people dated a whole lot more....after high school...people get into serious relationships and date even more people.....by this point most people have had numerous girlfriends or boyfriends....maybe you missed my point of why i'm so hurt.....i missed out on all of that. i've never dated a girl...i've never really hung out with a girl (other than a friend) i've never got to cuddle....i've never got to have deeper feelings for someone...i've never had anyone care about me....miss me...love me...be there for me. i've had a long HARD life and i've had to do ALL of it alone. there are no failed relationships or regrets....its just been me and me only. i wont lie i have kissed 2 girls but one i dont remember and it was very brief and the second i barely did anything and just doesnt count in my mind....and both girls were only a few minutes....not like i dated them or got to know them it was a right there kind of thing and just dont wanna go into it.....does all of that help explain better? telling me i'm only 22 and i'm still young upsets me and it hurts because yeah i'm still young but i'm pretty old for way past due on the learning how to kiss and do things for a girl.

[**Sapphire**]

I'm sorry about that woman, but she obviously was using you during her trying time in her divorce. When she didn't need you anymore she left & that was very wrong, you do deserve better like the others have said before me.

I'm going to be brutally honest here & open up a little bit, my first REAL relationship started 2 years & 7 months ago & that was with my current fiance, I am also 31 years old now. I had relationships, but nothing that would be much of anything a month or 2 at the most. I was alone for awhile & at 1 point resided myself to thinking I would be alone forever when BAM I met my fiance in a chat room, we started talking & the rest is history.

I know it's cliche etc., but you WILL meet the right woman for you, she will love & care for you as much as you do her. It takes a whole lot of patience, which isn't always a good thing I know as I'm not a very patient person.

Take things day by day, go out, hang with friends & before you know it you will meet the right woman. :)

[jimbo666]

thanks for the encouragemnet saphire.....i just dont want to wait as long as you did...i dunno how you did it. also...you HAD relationships.....i have nothing....big difference in my opinion...

[stoner]

i have nothing....big difference in my opinion...

Sorry to be blunt, but it will be that way for a while *if* you keep on thinking about it.

For now, keep your mind off of it and focus on other things that interests you ... the one where you will have the opportunity to mingle with others, in some form or another. It is better to find someone that you have something in common with ... one who will share your interests (naturally) and vice versa, as opposed making yourself to liking her interests even though you weren't into it in the past.

For example, while I'm not big into Star Trek, I knew someone who has. In fact, I remembered the times when he would put on a uniform (really!) when we went to see a full feature film in the theater. Sometimes to the point that I felt kinda embarrassed, but he's my friend, and I accept him for that ... warts and all. He collected memorabilia, autographed photos of Marina Sirtis (Troi), Patrick Stewart (Picard) among others, attended conventions and such, etc. One day, he met someone from one of the conventions that he attended and hit it off from there... He introduced me to her, and while I may not understand much of the "lingo" involved with the conversations, I knew that love found him. It actually took him a while to open up, instead of her.

You're not alone in this situation man ... some people may experience it at a younger age, and others do at a later time. There's a time and place for everything and everyone, and your time will come. Just hang in there and good luck.

[**Sapphire**]

I totally agree with the advice that stoner gave you. When you focus on wanting a girlfriend so much, it's going to take longer to find "the one". If you think about it, it happens like that in anything in life. Something, ANYTHING that you want badly, many times it takes awhile to achieve it.

As I said before, be patient, go do things that you like, maybe take up a hobby, something you have wanted to do, but haven't yet. Get your mind off wanting to be with a girl SOO MUCH. Go out, do things & I bet when you least expect it, you will meet someone that will be the type of woman you have been looking for. You just have to slow down & be patient, easier said than done.

[hihihihi]

well...good luck in any case