How important are looks?

[daisychip]

How important are looks to you in the overall scheme of being with s/o. I'd like to hear both male and female opinion.

If I had to say what my preferred look in a mate would be, the man I'm dating now and am so well matched with in most all other ways, doesn't fit the description. I do love his facial features and can gaze at him forever but the body form wouldn't be my first choice. For me, thats no big deal but I do wonder if years down the road, it COULD become an issue. I don't think so but this is why I'm asking.........because I know that I don't possess his preferred look either, I'm nearly oppossite from it.

So thats my question. In your relationships and in your opinions.........Can the way your mate LOOK present a problem in the future?

[T12am]

I always feel self-conscious about myself. I was in a house fire when I was 16 and of course scars will surely bring anybody's self-esteem down. I don't fit in the description of someone who is attractive.. seeing how my husband's ex looked pretty and the guy I'm seeing.. his wife is also pretty. I don't know.. I think confidence in your looks is the key to everything.

Back to the topic, I think it will present a problem if you are not all that okay with the way your mate looks. If it's a slight problem now, it will grow into a conflict in the relationship later...

[**Sapphire**]

Looks aren't that important to me, so down the road looks still won't be a problem.

[Penguin_Woman]

I'm not all about looks. :)

[~Teej~]

I'm not into look much myself..

I guess it is important in a way if you are looking for a date at a club or bar etc.

But I have feelings for my friend not for the way he looks but for who he is..He's a great guy..He's not the best to look at I admit that..But he is wuvvy.

So I say that looks don't matter to me.

[daisychip]

yea they're not that important to me either...............my bf has to be atrractive to me but he doesn't have to be the 'perfect' image..............I must just be having some insecurity issues happening cuz I'm more worried about what he might do if 'his' perfect image ever presented herself to him........................of course I know she'd have to have all the qualities I have and we have together to............ever cause a prob.....:nervous: .....lol

[gnahtov]

Looks aren't important but I'd be lying if I said they did not matter to me. I believe physical attraction and sex can be a very large reason why some couple are together or split up.

In the end it comes down to who you and your SO are and what are your priorities.

[mashmac]

It's more attitude and confidence that make the looks. But I would agree that looks do matter, certainly to begin with it. Then of course if there is nothing behind the looks... Looks become irrelevant.

Still, I am not sure I would fall for Quasimodo! Think I've already used this one.
And if I see George Clooney or his lookalike passing by, I am sure I would notice him!

[stoner]

Image meant everything ... especially back in my days in high school and college. Unfortunately, I didn't fit the "adonis" description, so I stopped looking in the mirror. In turn, I focused on the good qualities of the content of my character, and that made all the difference in my relationships - both past and present. If you really love and care about the person, then looks should not even be an issue, especially in long-term relationships.

[daisychip]

I agree with you stoner. I still don't have the (whoever was popular at the time) looks but I know I'm a beautiful person inside and have respect for myself and others and I've been told that's what makes me attractive......lol......................awww shucks!...............you don't have to say that.........ty.................lol.

[GeeksAreHotter]

For me it's always the eyes which pull me in, then the smile and then the personality. The girl I am seeing now has amazing eyes and her smile lights up the world! I've always said that a girl can have the nicest boobs, cutest *** and tightest body in the world but if she doesn't have eyes I can lose myself in then I'm not interested. When I talk to the girl I love I catch myself completely zoneing out and just looking into her eyes.

Of course good looks do help, but they, IMO, are not the most important thing. If you feel comfortable with them and can talk to them about everything and anything then that's WAY more important than how hot she is or isn't.

That's my two cents.:D

[arc]

Daisy. I am late for your topic. Not sure if you are still interested in finding more opinion here. As you know there is a special guy i have the "infatuation" now. He doesnot have "perfect" figure, but he is very attractive in my eyes. Do you like the movie "shrek"? with his looking, shrek even attracts many women:) since he is so lovely. Looking/appearance should not be a problem for women as long as the man has charm from inside.

On the other hand, mature men do not care about women's looking either. Good looking does help attract opposite side but quality is more important.

As i read your words, i just felt you are so charming with the imagination that you must be a beautiful lady in reality too.

[johnson ong]

hi, daisy,
looks is just not important, wat is more important is the inside of that look.

[daisychip]

Thank you arc and johnson for your added opinions.

I agree there has to be substance to the look and have found 'handsome' people can have an ugly interior.

Thank you arc for your imagination. I imagine the same of you as well, isn't that funny?

[Pink]

It's more attitude and confidence that make the looks.

I agree 100%.

[aussiecoffee007]

i dont think looks are very important... sometimes the people witht he best looks have the worst personalities... and to me, whats important about that? by the time you are 40 or whatever if you really want to grow old with this person it wont matter what they look like or anything... plus, looks can be made by personality... like guys who would objectively be totally hot can look reall yugly to me if they are mean or rude, or vice versa on both.

[babylove621]

looks really aren't that important to me, im more attracted to a guys personality, but i guess in someways i have to be some what attracted to the guy too, but he doesn't have to be gorgeous though idk lol i do notice that i prefer brown hair/ brown eye guys over blonde hair/blue eyes thats about it though.