When Age Is A Problem

[c_thina00]

Do you think an age difference between your partner matters that much?

For me, Age matters most, because I will be dating people who are 2 years older than me, its something like that!

[encoder]

For me, age doesn't matter much. As long as the person is mature enough to handle relationships then I think that person is ready to be in a relationship. I already had a girlfriend who is not too old from my age, only months difference. I also had a girlfriend who is 3 years younger than me.

Personally, as long as the person loves me then I would love her as much as she loves me.:)

[typingdancingqueen]

Quite a few people that I knew that were dating people that were a lot older than them, then some even got married to the people. Although others would try desperately to warn them that they had an age difference and that it may be a problem later, most don't seem to listen and keep dating or even marry anyways. Then later they find it is a huge problem and break up or divorce.

[Desire]

It does not matter to some extent, I mean you cant be 40 dating a 16 year old, although I have done that myself, but I learned my lesson, but if they are mature and both truly feel the same, then its ok.

[Sandy]

My husband is 14 yrs older than I am. In general this is usually not a big deal. He doesnt act that much older, he is more fun than me some times! lol, but in music and stuff we fight over what to listen too.

[Sandy]

My aunts husband was 15 yrs older than her and they been married over 40 yrs and still very happy. My husband is 14 yrs older than me, we been together about 11 yrs and still see no problems.

[aqua]

Age doesn’t matter in love only thing which matters is mental wavelength if that’s matching everything else is just trash. My dad is 10 years older then my mom but they are wonder full couple.

[sassybritches72]

To me I dont think age is that important as long as both people are mature and they can handle a relationship. I think what matters the most is that those two people are in love and are happy with each other.

[sams]

If we talk in general sense I think men generally prefer a positive gap of few years than women. But how logical it is or is there any scientific reason to it or not will be better explained by experts.

[Raquel]

I think that as long as both of the people that are involved are adults that age should not matter at all. The only time that I have a problem with age is when one of the people are say 16 and the other is in their 20's something just does not add up there for me.

[darkdreams]

I agree with those who say that age doesnt matter so long the maturity is there in both partners and that they know what sort of relationship they are having. If they understand each other perfectly and can do things to keep each other happy then age is nothing but just a minor detail that can be overlooked!

[audreycsmith]

Age is just a number. The equalization of two people is what counts. My dad was 45 when I was born. I had two older sisters. My mother was 21. The marriage didn't last, but my dad still allowed my mother, at any given time, to come and stay in the family home so she could spend time with her six children. l always had relationships where the men were always 3 or 4 years
older than myself. My eldest daughter is 21, but is always in relationships with men that are a few years younger than herself.

Love is hard to understand, so just have a great time at what you are doing. Don't make waves, and there won't be any coming back on you. If your partner messes up, from your viewpoint, express it to him/her kindly. If they don't get it, you step away and start doing things for yourself with someone else or by yourself. Audrey C. Smith

[like2play]

I believe that when two people love each other their age difference doesnt pose a problem. age only has to be a problem if people want to make it one. if you truly love a person, you dont love them any differently because of their age.

[Gerry]

To me age is just a nymber AFTER 21, lol. I don't believe in robbing the craddle in any kind of way. But if adults who cares how old 1 is or how younf 1 is.

[lovelovelove]

I really don't think age matters except in cases similar to Mary K. Letourneau. I'm still out on a decision about gold diggers though. Other than that, age is just a number. I usually date older men (usually 3-6 years) because I feel that I can relate to them more and I tend to have more in common with them. My sister usually dates guys her own age for the same reasons. My brother tends to date younger girls (while his current gf is older) and my boyfriend tends to date older women (while I'm younger). Age really is just a number.

[emdar]

Once you are an adult age is just a number, there is no accounring for who you will fall in love with, but under 18 or 21 should be off limits to anyone older than like 22 or 23. No teen should be involved with an adult.

[lifeluv]

I agree that as long as both parties are actual adults - and mature enough to enter a relationship then there really shouldn't be any problems. Of course age is all relative anyway because people all mature at different speeds in my opinion - as long as honesty & trust is there.

[lovebites]

Yes, age definately matters. Age matters as it affects our understanding. And understanding is very much important in any relationship. If there is a lot of age difference between a couple they are bound to have differences as their way of thinking, their outlook towards life, their experiences, their expectations, etc are different from each other.

[Tuxie]

My gf is 18 years my junior. I don't have any hangups about age... and I'll let tuxgal speak for herself. Our relationship is one full of love and devotion. If you have that, IMHO... age isn't that big of a deal.

[Tuxgal]

Like audrey said, it's only a number. Like my love said our relationship is full of love, devotion...and also passion that transcends age. The love of my life just happens to be 18 years my senior, but it doesn't seem like it. We don't really argue about music. we have some different tastes, but not on decade's of music, just artists. He acts like someone almost my age but is still very smart, wise and mature. He's also sexy as can be. :D I adore him with all my heart and our age makes no difference to me.

[audreycsmith]

My father and mother were 21 years apart. Me, my relationships always were where my male partner was 4 years older than me. Age is only a number. There are teenagers out there that act more mature than a lot of grown up men. My hub is 57 and still his mother trys to control him. If a couple is getting along, no matter what the age difference, than that is all that counts, right?

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audreycsmith

[~Teej~]

Age doesn't generally matter..I think is some cases though it can be wrong..

My friend who was 17 at the time met a man who was 30 and they started dating. She was pregnant a few months later ( lost it after a few months ).

A year later and they are married..She is only 18 and he's 31..I see no problem with them dating, but getting married so quickly was a mistake..Especially as she is only 18 and is subject to change a lot at her age..I think that she will wonder one day why she has married someone so much older than herself and she will end it to do things that she missed out on..He is truly a nice guy and he will end up getting hurt..

But who knows, maybe, hopefully they will prove us all wrong.

[Tuxie]

I am 18 years, Tuxette's senior. I think timing has a lot to do with a relationship. If I had met her when she was 18, I would've been 36. :eek: IMHO, there would be some issues to deal with at those ages. Seems like there would be some differences in activity levels, both physically and sexually (even though, I was a somewhat active 36yo). Today, I think we match up rather well. Our matching sense of humor serves us well. :D

[Penguin_Woman]

:D I agree. I think we match very well in every way :smlove2:

[aussiecoffee007]

i think age matters to a certain extent, like if youre under 14 or something i dont care mature you are but i wouldnt want you dating anyone over 18!! lol but other than that, i agree with audrey, i think its just a number... some teens act like adults and some adults act like teens and age is all relative to the two involved in teh relationship.

[lisa843]

My kids father was 10 years older than me. My ex husband was 6 years younger than me. I don't have a problem dating older or younger..as long as they are mature and good people. Now that I am older is seems like younger men are more attracted to me...but I am ok with it...lol :)

[chungjoe]

for me, age isnt a matter,,, i was dated with a guy 20 years older than me, when i was 19,,, sound crazy? but i liked him a lots so dont think a matter,,, but when we went out,,, he didnt hold my hand,,,
anyway,,, right now,,, i am not with him,,, but i still trust that it can work out even a really big age gap

[aussiecoffee007]

hmm i wonder why he didnt hold your hand when you two went out... were you ashamed or something? i trust that too :)

[urmineluv]

I have question for those who said age is not a problem. If u r 22 and ur gf is 30, do u still think 'it doesn't matter'?????

[aussiecoffee007]

yeah, im a bit confused on how that is a different question... just the reverse you mean? i think its fine, but... guys mature slower than girls, so that 22 year old better be pretty darn mature :) but i think it depends on the people involved, but its not like its automatically a problem.

welcome to ATLF, by the way :)

[Penguin_Woman]

Yes, welcome urmine. I think it's still fine...it'd just depend on the people. A mature 22 year old guy and a child at heart 30 year old woman would be fine. It's about the peopl more than an age

[chungjoe]

I have question for those who said age is not a problem. If u r 22 and ur gf is 30, do u still think 'it doesn't matter'?????

the only problem is on yrself, if u really like her,,, even she is 30, u still like her, isnt it?
i have a friend, when he is 23 and he had a gf is around 40, he told me that was one of a good relationship he never had.
the main thing is depend on what you really want, some people think that women in around 30, is more mature, just the thing is if u feel comfortable with her,,, that's enought.
but there will be a problem on how the people ''look'' on your relationship, just like before, i went out with a 40-year guy when i was 19. people dont know us would think he is my dad, however, that is only what i mind how the people look around us. after he knew that i was upset about this, he didnt hold my hand anymore when we went out. so only if u feel happy and confortable on the relationship, that's all.
hope this can help.

[lisa843]

Just curious...do ya'll think a 30 year old guy and a 43 year old women are too far in age to be compatible??

How old is too old...and young is too young...in your opinion??? (for the record...I don't mean anyone under age!!! I am talking strictly legal and mature!!!)

[aussiecoffee007]

as ive said, i dont think its a matter of numbers, its a matter of the maturity of the people involved. if that age difference is enough to handle it, than so be it, if they are both mature enough to handle the type of relationship both want. my grandparents are 16 years apart and have been together for 50+ years.

[lisa843]

I agree. :)as ive said, i dont think its a matter of numbers, its a matter of the maturity of the people involved. if that age difference is enough to handle it, than so be it, if they are both mature enough to handle the type of relationship both want. my grandparents are 16 years apart and have been together for 50+ years.

[chungjoe]

Just curious...do ya'll think a 30 year old guy and a 43 year old women are too far in age to be compatible??

How old is too old...and young is too young...in your opinion??? (for the record...I don't mean anyone under age!!! I am talking strictly legal and mature!!!)

too old and too young question,,, is hard to say...
i think 30 year guy with 43 year women is not too far as a gap... i cant say what age is too young or too old. age can say to how mature to that peoson, but not ONLY age can say that, just like i know 2 guys also in around 30, but one is came out to work since he was 16 and the other is just grad and work only 4 yrs. it also make them diff on how mature. mature depend on that person past expenience and family history....etc
a 40 year old person can be still so childhood, n u cant push him/her to become mature if they r not.

[4evertommysgirl]

Im 20 and my husband is 32, and we have no problem. Unless Im 20 and he is 60, I knew a lot of people like that specially in my country an 18 year old girl married to a 65 year old man, and they say they love them, I dont know I doubt it but for me I will never like a guy twice as age as my father LOL!

[aussiecoffee007]

haha yeah, a huuuuge age gap i guess just raises questions about their intents and all...

[Penguin_Woman]

Yeah...I agree, Like that whole Anna Nicole thing. If he was old and broke and she said she loved him...I'd say more power to ya'. But the fact he had a lot of money...then ya gotta wonder.

[aussiecoffee007]

yeah especialyl considering that wild spectacle after he died about his property and everything... i dont know, when a guy is like 90 and close to dying and hes rich and you are this 30s woman... you gotta wonder about the intentions :)

[Riggs]

Do you think an age difference between your partner matters that much?

For me, Age matters most, because I will be dating people who are 2 years older than me, its something like that!

I think as long as it isn't a big difference, or you are not marrying an old man or woman just for their money, and really love the person, then I don't see where a few years difference is that big of a deal.

[mashmac]

usually doesn't matter when the man is older, but strange if the woman is older.

[4evertommysgirl]

Do you think an age difference between your partner matters that much?

For me, Age matters most, because I will be dating people who are 2 years older than me, its something like that!

Why would you care about what other people say? if you really love someone, age doesnt matter anymore! Let the other people think what they want! its none of their business anyway! hehe

[Riggs]

Yeah, listen to the pretty little girl in the wine glass. lol If you worry too much what others think, than you will never be truly happy. Like some people won't go to the beach because others might see that they are out of shape. Big deal..they will one day too.

[Jackie]

when people always say "age is not a problem" is not. As long both person can click and both are mature to handle the relationship is fine. People who are in the age but dating someone very very young like.. 40-20 thats a huge gap right there. Old enough to be father and daughter.


My by and I are 7 years apart and we get along great. We are both mature and silly at times. But we have nothing that has bother us before becuz of age difference.

[aussiecoffee007]

yeah, well technically even 15 years apart could be enough to be father-daughter possibility, i just think it has more to do with maturity less with the number.

[Penguin_Woman]

Yup, I agree. As I've said...Tuxie is 18 years older than me, but we match perfectly. Of course I'm 30 and he's 48...so I guess it's different then if I was like 18 and he 36.

[aussiecoffee007]

i guess the older you go, the less age matters... i mean 4 and 14, pretty huge, 20 and 30, not so bad, but like 40 and 50 is nothing...

[GeeksAreHotter]

If you really care for the person I say go for it.

[bombastico]

Age doesn't matter ! If you feel happy with somebody then that's the right person, but if the difference is like 30 years, then mmmm I wouldn't go for it! Unless she is rich and close to dying. ^^

[aussiecoffee007]

err i dont think i could do that even if they were rich!! haha i think it depends on the people

btw bombastico your eye-color-changing thing is very cool